mans not contented

[lovelylady]

i heared from my friend story that his husband not contented what she give in returnhe always say he spend a lot of money already but his wife not yet granted to her visa and until now she still waiting but her husband always moan the expences he spend to his wifebut my friend told him money cant give happiness coz i can give u only in return being fatihful,honest and good wife especially ssssssssshhhhhh never to mentionedhis happy with that but he always mentioned how much he spend to his wife but he been married before and he spend a lot of money than his new wife nowmy friend as me if i can give more option to her about her problem of her husband being selfishguys i need some of u here can give any ideai feel so sorry to my friend why some foreigners always there mind is money and they invest a lot already but wife not yet on there sideim so sorry for u guys if i say something that can touch of ur ego here but not mean all they are

[britishdetained]

i heared from my friend story that his husband not contented what she give in returnhe always say he spend a lot of money already but his wife not yet granted to her visa and until now she still waiting but her husband always moan the expences he spend to his wifebut my friend told him money cant give happiness coz i can give u only in return being fatihful,honest and good wife especially ssssssssshhhhhh never to mentionedhis happy with that but he always mentioned how much he spend to his wife but he been married before and he spend a lot of money than his new wife nowmy friend as me if i can give more option to her about her problem of her husband being selfishguys i need some of u here can give any ideai feel so sorry to my friend why some foreigners always there mind is money and they invest a lot already but wife not yet on there sideim so sorry for u guys if i say something that can touch of ur ego here but not mean all they are

hello...first about the visa, well that is not her fault being delayed with the visa. With the husband, maybe he is stressed on the waiting period. There are two things that being married should be understood. If one complaints about the expenses maybe it is not because to blame the other one but maybe just so disappointed on the delayed. If she thinks her husband is complaining to her about it and blaming her well it should not be like that. She must tell her husband that she is not an investment, but maybe better she clear things with him first coz there is a possibility that it is only mis understanding. As a wife also she must not compare herself from his ex especially on how much the money was used to the other one. That will just make things complicated.

Being a wife, that is her duty to be faithful, honest and trustworthy. She doesnt need to say that to her husband. We are getting married because we love the person unconditionally.

[trader dave]

ffs whats up with some of these fecking blokes


yes it costs a lot of money and i know if your friend is like my WIFE [who is waiting also to join me] gets very UPSET BECAUSE SHE CANT FORFILL HER WIFLY JOB -----

its not her fault tell him to get a life and stop being so fecking selfish

he is not alone in spending a lot of money and i know it is frustrating waiting to be together but heyyy surely he knew that when he started the relationship

tell him to come on here i am sure a few of the other guys will give him some verbal abuse as well

[lovelylady]

ffs whats up with some of these fecking blokes


yes it costs a lot of money and i know if your friend is like my WIFE [who is waiting also to join me] gets very UPSET BECAUSE SHE CANT FORFILL HER WIFLY JOB -----

its not her fault tell him to get a life and stop being so fecking selfish

he is not alone in spending a lot of money and i know it is frustrating waiting to be together but heyyy surely he knew that when he started the relationship

tell him to come on here i am sure a few of the other guys will give him some verbal abuse as well w*nker

he cant come here coz he said he spend a lot of money again its better he will going to save the money just to spend to come back in philippinesur not good if always on ur mind is about MONEY MONEY MONEYu will not be happy if only about MONEY cause cant buy a happiness of ur wifehe forget to remember that he spend a lot of money when they start of relationship and now he change and start to moan about expences and waiting for his wife not yet on his sidehis blind now to think about his MONEY he spend on the investment he call

[trader dave]

he cant come here coz he said he spend a lot of money again its better he will going to save the money just to spend to come back in philippinesur not good if always on ur mind is about MONEY MONEY MONEYu will not be happy if only about MONEY cause cant buy a happiness of ur wifehe forget to remember that he spend a lot of money when they start of relationship and now he change and start to moan about expences and waiting for his wife not yet on his sidehis blind now to think about his MONEY he spend on the investment he call

but as others have said we always moan its our way


many would love to work in the philippines if only they had a chance



hopefully wifes [if they want] they can do a little job in the uk

personaly i dont want mrs t to work in the philippines because i dont believe in slave labour but she may work in the uk if she wants to

at least here workers dont get used abused or exploited or at least they should'nt

he cant come here coz he said he spend a lot of money again its better he will going to save the money just to spend to come back in philippines I CAN UNDERSTAND THAT

[Tawi2]

He calls his wife an "Investment" Lovelylady I hate to think how he intends to recoup his initial outlay on his "Investment"

[lovelylady]

but as others have said we always moan its our way


many would love to work in the philippines if only they had a chance



hopefully wifes [if they want] they can do a little job in the uk

personaly i dont want mrs t to work in the philippines because i dont believe in slave labour but she may work in the uk if she wants to

at least here workers dont get used abused or exploited or at least they should'nt

he cant come here coz he said he spend a lot of money again its better he will going to save the money just to spend to come back in philippines I CAN UNDERSTAND THAT

i mean he cant come back in philippines because he spend a lot of money again thats why he said he only save than to spend:his kuripot to spend

[KeithD]

We always complain about how much you cost us, I thought that was normal

[MarBell379]

I sympathise here. I send money to my fiancee. She doesn't WANT to take it, but she needs to take it as she would not be able to afford college without it.
I don't like it much either, and I have been guilty of moaning about sending too much, but I'd rather send it and have her happy in college than unhappy and struggling.

Its the British way to moan about things, even when its the right thing to do.
When its hot, its too hot and we want it colder, when its cold its too cold and we want it warmer. Its not a real complaint, just a cultural way of talking I think.

Ive tried to explain this before, and not very successfully I think.

[britishdetained]

I sympathise here. I send money to my fiancee. She doesn't WANT to take it, but she needs to take it as she would not be able to afford college without it.
I don't like it much either, and I have been guilty of moaning about sending too much, but I'd rather send it and have her happy in college than unhappy and struggling.

Its the British way to moan about things, even when its the right thing to do.
When its hot, its too hot and we want it colder, when its cold its too cold and we want it warmer. Its not a real complaint, just a cultural way of talking I think.

Ive tried to explain this before, and not very successfully I think.

agree to that! being with Kevin for almost 5 years...im now use to his moans and i realise that its just apart of his daily converstaion

[maria_and_matt]

hmmm my husbands british but he never moans.... its always yes dear ok dear as long as you are happy dear

[KeithD]

hmmm my husbands british but he never moans.... its always yes dear ok dear as long as you are happy dear

If it's true what I've heard that you cut your finger nails with an axe, then I'm not surprissed

[maria_and_matt]

If it's true what I've heard that you cut your finger nails with an axe, then I'm not surprissed

he just wouldn't dare i think that he knows by now that what i want i normally get poor poor hubby

[aphrodite78]

hmmm my husbands british but he never moans.... its always yes dear ok dear as long as you are happy dear

does he got a twin brother (lol). you must be very lucky (not that i am saying i'm not i wouldn't change my new hubby for the world).

i guess i have encountered quite a few men like that (moaners and whingers) but they don't really mean to, it's just that they are voicing out their frustration. sometimes you just really have to bite your lip when they moan. good day everyone specially the men in this forum.

[GaryFifer]

Ok some(not all) Filipinos do have a dependency which really makes us British guys irritated. We are taught that if you want something in life you must work hard for it yourself. I do not mind helping someone for a little bit if they have it hard. Once they are on their feet, get on with it.

This will put a cat amongst the pigeons. Example of ideal situation. Here is a deal miss Filipina. you get a job- you work. I work then we do not argue about sending money. Because- Miss Filipina you may spend your own money. Then I do not have to send money, no argument about it.

I wish money was NEVER in relationship, but it is part of circumstances.

In my situation, Jessica is working at doughnut stall and it makes little money, I still send her money little bit. It just is a fact of life we have to end up sending money for something. I do not like it.

[MarBell379]

I still send her money little bit. It just is a fact of life we have to end up sending money for something. I do not like it.

seeeee - british guy moaning about sending money, but he's still OK with it.
Thats exactly waht I meant - its just the way we communicate it doesnt mean we're upset or angry about it, just that we'd prefer not to in an ideal world.

No offence meant gary - just using it as an example of what I do al the time as well!

[GaryFifer]

seeeee - british guy moaning about sending money, but he's still OK with it.
Thats exactly waht I meant - its just the way we communicate it doesnt mean we're upset or angry about it, just that we'd prefer not to in an ideal world.

No offence meant gary - just using it as an example of what I do al the time as well!

Filipinas be glad to have their own money to survive&build life. Opportunities are not there. Or are they? I saw that plainly in Peter's blog. Example. Peter bought Ginas relative a sewing machine. Little things like that I can understand.
Yep there are circumstances we cannot control in our Filipinas lives. Before us partners arrived, I am sure tito this and ate this need money for medicines, sore toes, flu. They just coped. Tough life.

[lovelylady]

seeeee - british guy moaning about sending money, but he's still OK with it.
Thats exactly waht I meant - its just the way we communicate it doesnt mean we're upset or angry about it, just that we'd prefer not to in an ideal world.

No offence meant gary - just using it as an example of what I do al the time as well!

yes i agree with youmy hubby always moaning but he said its english way

[D&G]

I wish money was NEVER in relationship, but it is part of circumstances.

it's a good thing we're both broke so no moaning or argument over money at all

[Arthur Little]

it's a good thing we're both broke so no moaning or argument over money at all

Pretty much like ourselves, really ...

[Tawi2]

I could tell an absolutely ridiculous story,but 100% factual of a lady who was supposed to be saving along with her husband for a much larger house,he had about 40K in the bank so she should have realistically had much,much more as he was paying all the bills,mortgage,paying her flights back to pinas to visit her family once a year,paid for her to go to america,spain,ireland,sweden...................the good times sort of ended abruptly when he found out she had borrowed at least 30K from the bank and sent it back,she never mentioned her savings or anything so he never knows the true amount or the true story,needless to say they are going through a divorce at the moment,and thats one lady who is going to be a lot worse off,you know the bad part?She never even had the sense to say "Sorry"

[maria_and_matt]

hmmmm, money the root of all evil all i can say is i am so deym lucky to be married to my hubby.. i have not asked him for any help for my family back home. but when my dad had cancer 5 yrs ago, my husband made sure that my father had the best care money can get. right from the time of diagnosis till the funeral, he never complained not once about the monetary help he gives. my hubby sent a total of 4mil for my father, he never frowned, never complained (gosh i he really must love me)...

when my dad died, my husband hugged me and said he will do the same for my mum. and to this day he supports my mother. i told him he can stop as my dad left my mother with a a hefty life insurance. but my hubby said what he gives my mum is just for her day to day living so she is comfortable.

i really must show my hubby more love and appreciation.. i sometimes tend to overlook the things he does for me

for all the wives out there give ur brit husbands a big hug

[lovelylady]

hi guys thanks to all of u about ur help i cant really help with this situation coz this is only couples problem and many cant make problem and my friend is not the investment of what her husband call her.he really need to wait patiently even its very long time coz time will come they will be togethe again and he can save money unlike his wife still on philippines...im sorry guys if i often u in the last sentence i post.peace all of u

[GaryFifer]

My father had said a wise thing- take the money away from the lady is a test of her faith. Then do you still have relationship? So. take money from the lad. will you still have relationship?

[bornatbirth]

my wifes family doesnt need support from me either! and would be embarassed from your comments trader dave.

not all our wifes are from the poor areas and why would misses piggy need to read about her own culture,shes from there?

[britishdetained]

my wifes family doesnt need support from me either! and would be embarassed from your comments trader dave.

not all our wifes are from the poor areas and why would misses piggy need to read about her own culture,shes from there?

Being a Filipina and having a British partner i would say that YES not every Filipina are the same. Since i met Kevin never did I asked nor my family. In contrary I was the one sending money to hi to pay his rent, grocery and even fare coming back here. But never complained nor have I ever make him remember this...I guess being in love with that person it is my obligation to support my husband as he needs it. Never i complained of things i have done for my husband and im still happy and willingly do it again for him

[bornatbirth]

Being a Filipina and having a British partner i would say that YES not every Filipina are the same. Since i met Kevin never did I asked nor my family. In contrary I was the one sending money to hi to pay his rent, grocery and even fare coming back here. But never complained nor have I ever make him remember this...I guess being in love with that person it is my obligation to support my husband as he needs it. Never i complained of things i have done for my husband and im still happy and willingly do it again for him

you should of told him to get a job?

[britishdetained]

you should of told him to get a job?

Kev worked for a couple of months when he went back in the UK but because he has problem with his hips he have difficulties in walking...so I told him to get less hours of work. So coz its bit expensive there I have helped him with his bills and and just decided to go back here. Its alright with me, I would be willing to help him all the time as I know if he can only work regularly he would do the same thing.

[Tawi2]

BD,thats true love,your a rarity,you got something very special with kevin

[britishdetained]

Kev worked for a couple of months when he went back in the UK but because he has problem with his hips he have difficulties in walking...so I told him to get less hours of work. So coz its bit expensive there I have helped him with his bills and and just decided to go back here. Its alright with me, I would be willing to help him all the time as I know if he can only work regularly he would do the same thing.

In a relationship it is always give and take. Money should never be a part of an arguement- better yet it should be discussed fairly.