I would say it is a man thing, or at least to some menMost men will try to buy things for their lady during the act of courting, many drop these things when they finally "get the girl". But many men continue into late life giving small gifts to their wives to show appreciation.
Some men dislike a woman working as they feel it they're duty to provide the bread as it were. But in this modern age of low wages and long working hours, that is slowly being eroded and men and women now need to work as a teamAnd I think working as a team is harder to do for many couples, and I am sure I will find out how I go...
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Thank you northerner.....Man thingMe Tarzan you Jane but a modern romanticised version
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Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
I agree. There are so many romantic Filipinos too. Unfortunately, all the ones I know, I met in high school and they're now happily married to their high school sweethearts. And noone else was allowed to get close enough to me to be able to prove he was romantic and good and all those fun things.
i think all those guys offering you lots of gifts are just being macho and bragging to you and trying to impress you!
i was also wondering why they offered you so much?
what did you have on them?
i think the foreigners you chatted with probably just earned more money and could offer you better gifts?,i dont it matters where a man comes from more to do with his job!
i have learnt to do what my wife says!
I don't think theres any mystique here really.
For my part, I've been aware since the end of my teenage years, that I was (for the most part) earning more than anyone I was in a realtionship with and felt that I wanted to help out. There IS a historical cultural understanding deep in my psyche that says 'the guy pays' unless there is a specific reason not to.
With my fiancee, there is a definite added element in that I am so much in love with my wife to be that I WANT to help her have as good a life as possible, both now while we're apart and in the future when we're together.
She is fiercely independent and I know she'll want to earn her own money, but she is my family, I am the main wage earner, and I want to make sure there is nothing between us but love.
Money is what it is, a means to live and enjoy life. Thats it.
LOL! Honestly, I wouldn't mind taking the scientific approach and scouring the entire forum for posts about sending/giving money or not sending/giving money. It would be fun and a challenge that I'd enjoy. But the Fall term is starting and my professor's back with a lot of data for me. I'll have to go with personal observation here. Maybe someone can help me here. If I can't say that majority send money, can anyone tell me that the majority of the men here don't send money? Can't really count the people that have never mentioned it, but only the ones that have mentioned it (wouldn't be scientific to randomly assign yes or no to them).
I know the things I posted may have raised some people's hackles, but if things said hit home and hit hard, maybe there's some truth to them. If the shoe doesn't fit, why wear it and defend it tooth and nail? I don't think there's anything wrong with admitting that you're doing something that isn't accepted by others. I actually admire Trader Dave for admitting his money flies out of his pockets like rockets whenever his wife wants something (no matter how much stuff she already has). I don't agree with what he does, but at least he's honest about it. I think that's awesome. There's no shame in being honest.
Feminism is our concept,this is the age of sexual equalityIf a woman didnt hold a door open for me or pull out a chair when I am about to sit at a table I would be most offended,you want to be treated as equals
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Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
Same with me...when kev was still in the UK i am the one calling him as i have skype account and never sent me flowers toonever sent me money too as i told him that it is best if he saves it, sometimes i am the one sending him money as i asked him before to resign from work as he has difficulties in walking so i told him since in younger, ill help him first (as i got a small business from my da...so i have enough dodge to send for his groceries
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There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
There once was a girl that believed in mankind, that there was still honor and chivalry that existed in everyone of us. She also believed that everyone deserves a chance to prove oneself individually and hoped that the courtesy would be returned. That girl is dead now, and all that is left is her shadow. To give one a chance to prove thyself is a chance for you to become dwindled in the dissappointment.
For almost two and a half years in LDR, my boyfriend never sent me money. He doesn't have to anyway, I have always survived financially on my own or on my parents' support, when I am not working. Besides, my only vice is food, which is pretty much affordable.
We do exchange gifts sometimes. He sent me flowers a couple of times.
He calls me too but I told him only when it is important cos he is paying so much on that 3 network (which I have whined about in my previous posts). Sometimes, I don't answer his call but call him back since I discovered that 12800 number. Thanks to this forum.
At work, when they found out I am dating a white guy, I always get teased about getting a "remittance", I got upset at first cos it made me feel that they are insinuating I am using my boyfriend. Later on, I learned to laugh it off and even joke about GBP-Peso exchange rate.
I have nothing against those who send/receive money and I understand why they do that as well but I hope guys will be careful when it comes to sending money as some girls use their charm to take advantage.![]()
When in doubt, mumble.
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