my wife use to say, it's just money when i had to send money to the phils, it's easy to spend and waste someone elses money.
funny since my wife has been working, and now we send some of her wages back to the phils, its not longer just money, but money she has had to earnand we dont send as much as we use to
only send what you can easily afford, dont get your self in debt or let it get out of hand
Joblogs, thats a great storey, ahahaha now your wife is working and sending her own wages its no longer "Just Money" and now the family get less
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You're an adult aren't you
On a personal level I'd be insulted if dontpushme asked me to send money back to the Philippines, but I guess I'm pretty lucky because she'd never ask me in the first place, (not that I have any to send)
If you're absolutely intent on sending money back, why not tell your other half that you'll match whatever she sends back? Sounds fair, no?
But I definitely wouldn't feel obliged to send anything back, like Win2Win (I believe) mentioned, they coped before you came along, they can cope when you're there
whys it an insult?
its completely natural to support someone you have a relationship with,i guess your lucky not needing to support your gf or her family or maybe they wont accept it like my wifes family!
i have learnt to do what my wife says!
Guess its the way I've entered the relationship. If she were to suddenly turn around and say "yeah send £x back to the Philippines every month". Why should I? Would she stop loving me if I didn't? Would she resent me?
I've never sent money to any girlfriends families in the UK, so to me it's not completely natural. If part of the reason a girl wants to marry me is because I have the £££ to support her family then I think I have every right to feel insulted.
well at least she knows where you stand on sending money then
but what would happen if she needed it for an emergency, or she lost her job, was at uni studying, her family were poor, you still wouldn't help
it all depends on circumstances. and if you can afford to help, but insulted is a strong word to use
if your parents didn't have much would you help them out ? or let them struggle ??
Dont feel insulted Matt,its asian culture,totally different from ours,though this system of dependancy looks set to continue for a long time in the future as pinas has a 3% population growth and is reliant on foreign remittancesAlso remember we all live according to our means,we adjust to whatever we have in our accounts or the salary we are earning,the more you send the more they spend
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well at least she knows where you stand on sending money then
but what would happen if she needed it for an emergency, or she lost her job, was at uni studying, her family were poor, you still wouldn't help
it all depends on circumstances. and if you can afford to help, but insulted is a strong word to use
if your parents didn't have much would you help them out ? or let them struggle ??
It's not really though, I want a girl to be in a relationship with me for the right reasons. If she has ulterior motives then I'd feel insulted by them
Obviously there are extenuating circumstances. If the girls family lived in abject poverty then I'd want to help, but if I was sending hard earned cash back to fund lavish spending when the family was already comfortable then its absolute nonsense.
Luckily this is all hypothetical
*edit - Can I just add its not my intention to offend anyone here, perhaps I'm just a little naive. But I get annoyed at the times people are somewhat "expected" to fund other peoples lifestyles, taxpayers fund enough lifestyles in the UK, but thats a different beast. I am more that willing to admit many people in the Philippines do need some kind of assistance though, especially considering there is no Welfare (I think I'm right with that? Or maybe just a little misinformed).
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