How much ££ for the family

[joebloggs]

We spent around 80,000 peso last year on hospital fees when my daughter was born, a couple of days later I was talking to my taxi driver and found out that his wife had just given birth as well, total cost 1100 peso God knows what kind of care his wife got.

Lastly as an example of the kind of emergencies that always happen, a few days before my daughter was born last year my partners neice was also giving birth, she is only 19, she nearly died in childbirth she was haemorrhaging badly after delivery and no one in the family could help everyone was broke (and we have a few OFW's in the extended family) anyway it was left to me I had to help what choice did I have, I knew this girl really well she was my future brother in laws youngest, could I let her die?

This is what you are letting yourself get into when you get involved with a Filipina, don't get me wrong the adventure is huge and the rewards will help you grow up in ways that you never imagined possible, it will make a better person of you, but is it no easy path to paradise getting involved with a Filipina, they are a very beautiful people with the richest souls I have ever met but they live in a complicated world.


Jim

all i can do is laugh and not think about pera jim

i use to have money in the bank now i'm living on credit

same situation as you jim, supported my now wife, her aunt, 2 kids to support thru school and uni, and all the emergencies that came along in the last 9yrs i've known the misses.

like you, just this year, me and the misses have paid nearly £1,000 for a caesarean op for my stepsons g/f, now an extra 2 mouths to feed (his g/f and a baby)

also we've had to pay for scans and treatment for the father in law..£100s more.

no one in my misses family has been living the easy life on what we send, we got it down to 20k a month by moving her aunt,stepson and his cousin back to my misses mom on palawan.

but were lucky, my wife is a reg doc in the phils, and hopefully by the end of oct, she will be able to work in the UK as a doc, its taken 4yrs in the uk to get this far because of the at the GMC. but soon we will look back at all the we went thru, and just as it will all be in the past, and we can start living again..

and the problems in the phils were least of my worries compared to the problems i've had in the uk over the last 5yrs. but that's another story

good luck jim, i've been there to

[Tawi2]

Three words..........."Its only money" you can shave a fortune off the costs,I lived in the mountains without electricity,bit of an adventure but not something that would appeal to me long term,some people have no option,but something Jim said struck a chord because its 110% true "Emergencies never stop" Thats fact,and actually looks to get worse as prices and population over there continue to rise,10 years time you will look back with rose-tinted nostalgia at 2009 and remember it as the days you only sent £200 a month back

[JimOttley]

Three words..........."Its only money" you can shave a fortune off the costs,I lived in the mountains without electricity,bit of an adventure but not something that would appeal to me long term,some people have no option,but something Jim said struck a chord because its 110% true "Emergencies never stop" Thats fact,and actually looks to get worse as prices and population over there continue to rise,10 years time you will look back with rose-tinted nostalgia at 2009 and remember it as the days you only sent £200 a month back

Yeah I've been thinking that for a long time, my biggest fears are the declining pound the rising peso and all those really beautiful pregnant Filipino lassies.

My partner never looked more beautiful than when she was pregnant but 2 kids were enough for us I finally got the operation last November here in the UK.

Then when I arrived at Christmas we were taking at night and one of our friends had been saying how beautiful our daughter was (she's a right wee Scottish lassie, the spitting image of me, almost nothing of her mother in her at all) and why don't we try for another one then Ana chips in with mahal ko I wish we could have another baby

Obviously at that point it could have still happened for us as it can take up to 6 months before a vasectomy is fully effective.

Nae wonder there are always problems

It's why I love them all though, crazy country

[JimOttley]

all i can do is laugh and not think about pera jim

i use to have money in the bank now i'm living on credit

same situation as you jim, supported my now wife, her aunt, 2 kids to support thru school and uni, and all the emergencies that came along in the last 9yrs i've known the misses.

like you, just this year, me and the misses have paid nearly £1,000 for a caesarean op for my stepsons g/f, now an extra 2 mouths to feed (his g/f and a baby)

also we've had to pay for scans and treatment for the father in law..£100s more.

no one in my misses family has been living the easy life on what we send, we got it down to 20k a month by moving her aunt,stepson and his cousin back to my misses mom on palawan.

but were lucky, my wife is a reg doc in the phils, and hopefully by the end of oct, she will be able to work in the UK as a doc, its taken 4yrs in the uk to get this far because of the at the GMC. but soon we will look back at all the we went thru, and just as it will all be in the past, and we can start living again..

and the problems in the phils were least of my worries compared to the problems i've had in the uk over the last 5yrs. but that's another story

good luck jim, i've been there to

Cheers sir.

Well I'm at the walang pera stage now well past living on credit

Yes it's only pera and I guess it's the fate of all foreign asawa's (and all OFW's)

I don't resent any of it, I just worry like hell all the time

We don't have any family in the provinces although Nanay was originally from Samar and Tatay was from Bohol but the family is very much Manila based and as you know Manila is much more expensive than the provinces, there are times I would like to send a few of them far away into the jungle though.

One nephew got into trouble last year, it wasn't his fault but he had been hanging around near where some other kids were causing trouble and ended up getting a bullet in the backside from an over zealous Barangay officer, the Barangay officer ended up in the jail I think.

I generally find that the boys in the family are a lot more clueless than the girls, the girls have a much greater sense of responsibiliy, but I suppose that is true over here as well these days.

Good luck to you too !



Jim

[joebloggs]

I don't resent any of it, I just worry like hell all the time

neither do I,

got my misses thru med school, got her cousin nearly thru uni doing a nursing degree (why help him ? hes a great guy, never had a break in his life, no parents, no family only family is my misses, and he is like a brother to my misses), stepson half way thru uni.

all the visa's are paid for, wife is a british citizen now, stepson has ILR, total cost of visa's was more than £4,000 over the last 5yrs , never mind flights, life in the uk exam etc..

and GMC - exams so my misses can work as a doc , cost me more than £2,500


so i've spend about £6,500 on visa's and exams in the last 5 yrs, that as a brit i have the privilege to pay for, but if i was a european living in the uk and married to my wife it wouldn't have cost me hardly anything.. but thats another story to

anyway after more than 4yrs, the should finally be over for me , hope there is light at the end of the tunnel for you to soon