How much ££ for the family

[dontpushme]

Hi Joe,

Yes, I did see that film. It was beautiful, and I'm sure my parents taught us to help for the same reasons. Even as a child, I've wanted to build an orphanage, a public library and cheap housing. That was how my dad convinced me to stop dragging my feet and come to the US to study. I had a job that I gave up to go back to school, and I don't regret it. I can't pay back the people that gave me scholarships, but know I'll be able to help others someday. It's something that still inspires me when I'm ready to give up on my thesis.

I commend your missus for working so hard to be a doctor. I don't think she scammed you. Honestly, women don't always tell you problems so you can offer to help. A lot of the time, all we need is someone to listen and commiserate with us. I have no doubt that with as much as her family's done in the past to solve similar problems, they would have found a way without your help. And that kinda brings me to pride, which could be the reason her mother told you to off. In the Philippines, women with foreign bfs or husbands are seen both as a source of much needed money and as cheap tramps (yes, there's that double standard). In the long run, though, I'm sure they'll appreciate your help. But don't make a habit of offering money at the first sign of tears. First offer your moral and emotional support. All that money being offered with every sob story only encourages scammers and golddiggers. They may have had a hard life before you came along, but they became stronger for it. And they did it without any help from outsiders.

To answer your question, If I REALLY had no choice, I'd have accepted Matt's help but dragged my feet doing it. And I'd have paid him back as soon as I could. Haha! My family's not supporting me right now and I'm still trying to get my former insurance company to pay for the medical costs (the scammers!). But I've already found two more sources of income in the last week. I'm no stranger to doing jobs that noone else wants, and I don't mind scrimping for a long time. It just makes my achievements that much sweeter.

[joebloggs]

Hi Joe,

Yes, I did see that film. It was beautiful, and I'm sure my parents taught us to help for the same reasons.

. And that kinda brings me to pride, which could be the reason her mother told you to off.

To answer your question, If I REALLY had no choice, I'd have accepted Matt's help but dragged my feet doing it. And I'd have paid him back as soon as I could. Haha!

i know my misses mom told me to because of pride, but faced with the reality of her daughter not going to uni for another year, wasting a year, im sure you being at uni can understand that. she didn't have a choice really.


then you would accept his help, so your just the same as many of us on here , i don't send people money to buy plasma tvs or cars, what i send is enough for them to get by, i've got my own kids here and i have to balance the spending of both families.

good luck with your studies