Quote Originally Posted by bystander09 View Post
In principal... nothing. Occasional gifts are OK.... This does not extend to buying the brothers a jeepney or tricycle and then being rolled over for the maintenance and new tires etc...

Your girl will come under family pressure to deliver the goods on a monthly basis. Remember that most Filipino families will look upon you as sort of winning the jackpot.....

Help only in matters of true emergency sickness etc; and do this by directly paying for hospital/doctor/medication expenses...

Keep in mind that people in the Philippines can die of medical problems that we in Europe would never consider life threatening....

I remember vividly seeing one of our neighbours family financially ruined by the mother contracting kidney disease which required regular dialysis. She died after about 3 years of treatment. The children’s inheritance being consumed by medical expenses..

bystander
If I have a fortune or savings money, I will not hesitate to buy jeepney or tricycle. Rather than sending money as I believe in Don't give fish but give them fishnet to get fish

I was just lucky I'm almost the youngest in the family and brod and sis are more stable than me. We got only one sister that we help sometimes due to her disability.

I'm also thankful that not because I send money to my Nanay, is she spends it all. I was surprised she has bank passbook and save the rest.

I also agree in emergency needs, that's why we filipinas are always saving for emergency reasons. This was taught by us when we attended CFO seminars and also a common sense to us.

Some lucky children gets inheritance from parents, and it is our culture that we can give up some properties to sell if parents is ill and no helps comes from their children. But usually, we children are working together and help each other to save our parents from illness.