jakeob one of the first things my partner asked was 'could I make babies?'Originally Posted by jakeob
I was 45 she was 31 and already pregnant although I did not know that for the first few months, (long story so please don't judge her she is a good woman).
So yes it is important to them, I was single, never married and I was not looking for a relationship, I had pretty much given up on ever finding someone and for me it was a blessing and a massive surprise meeting my partner.
I knew very early that she wanted children and to be honest in the Phils I could not imagine a life without kids, over here in the UK I could (I have lots of friends that chose that kind of life) but somehow that has a sterile feel to it these days even at my age.
We decided last year after our daughter was born that enough was enough, Ana wanted to get sterilised but at 36 she is still to young, much safer cheaper and simpler for me to have the op which I did last year her in the UK.
There are lots of really nice girls in the Phils that need rescued for one reason or another, that is true everywhere in the world I suppose, you have to think about what you want to give and what you want to receive in a relationship.
Much older man (55+) with very - young woman (20 something) : you are probably going to be a surrogate father, I find it hard to imagine how people can connect over that age gap, it could I suppose be a lot of fun but probably a good idea to have a lot of cash to start with.
Age gap a bit less and a couple of kids already in tow - well divorce does not exist in the Phils and there are a lot of ladies that have been badly treated by their husbands and a lot who have lost their husbands, these are good people you could have a good life if you are kind and understanding man.
You have to be there and mix with the people and have an extremely open non-judgemental mind, if you can do that you may well meet someone that you can fall in love with and that loves you back.
I was always utterly crap at dating, so I'm not the best person in the world to give advice but just be honest say what you want in life and if there appear to be language difficulties (not all Filipina's have great English language skils) make sure that you make yourself really clear. After that it is all up to actual being with a person and seeing if you have chemistry not really any different to making a relationship anywhere else in the world.
My Ana is the best English speaker in her family, she also speaks Korean, a little Spanish and some Japanese, language is her main skill in life but we still end up in terrible misunderstandings over interpretation of English sometimes
Hope you find someone!
Jim
