has this been resolved? anyway i actually got annulled last year (filed it even before i met my current fiancee) and my ex husband didnt really appear on court at all. so basically we really didnt get anything for him.. my lawyer said it is actually much better so we can bring up everything without the other party contesting it.. hence the whole proceeding was actually quicker and easier... let me know if you have any questions maybe i can refer you to my lawyer..