Quote Originally Posted by IainBusby View Post
I think that if he has just lost his father he should pause and take stock before making any rash decisions. Events such as these can make people do things that they would not normally do so I think he would be better to take some time to reflect and when he has really come to terms with his loss then he should decide if this is what he really wants to do.

At this moment in time things are grey and cold in the UK, he is also unemployed and if you couple this with a death in the family especially around Christmas time, that would surely make anyone feel depressed. In the Philippines things are warm and sunny and also, his wife is there waiting for him. But I think he needs to be sure that this is what he really wants to do for the long term and not just a way to escape the way he is feeling at this point in his life which is quite understandable.

Iain.
Thank you Ian for replying. My husband just says to me that he is not working, his mortgage loan will finish when he is about to retire and he may as well sell his house and join me here. He said house worth much more now than he bought it for and his time to leave uk is now. I said the same as you to wait as it is a huge change in life and it is different living and working here but he is getting advice and planning. I wont stop him for I miss him so very much and I dont want him to make mistake but I know deep in his heart his mind is made up. He understands working will be harder for him and here and I tell him he might not even find work but he is set in mind to come. I read on site that non filipinas will not find work and if they do money is not like he used to, this i explained and much more in detail but he still has mind made up. He just wants advice now on what to do in UK after selling his house and i said I write on here to see if I get replies but again I will tell him your advice and see his reply. He said finding work there is impossible and I said it no different here, even worse and less pesos. Thank you for your reply and i will tell him your advice. many thanks viesvies