what would you do?

[maria_and_matt]

anytime

we only live 5 mins from you,so she can come and chat with you while im at work

what if she did come and stay with you for a few days and her hubby didnt look for her and stuck with you for months??

she stayed with me for a month last year while hubby was away on a 'business' trip... never again... and i mean never, all she talked about was STD's her hubby gave her... and she cried a lot... i do not do crying very well unless someones died

[Tawi2]

she stayed with me for a month last year while hubby was away on a 'business' trip... never again... and i mean never, all she talked about was STD's her hubby gave her... and she cried a lot... i do not do crying very well unless someones died

STD's Seriously that is sad,she needs some form of self esteem affirmation and counselling,her husband sounds like a slug How old is he?

[maria_and_matt]

STD's Seriously that is sad,she needs some form of self esteem affirmation and counselling,her husband sounds like a slug How old is he?

he is in his 40's... she miscarried 2 years ago, the cause..... be ready for this, its some sort of STD he picked up in Thailand. chlamydia (had to google that for the spelling)... so sad but if she lets him get away with all this the abuse will never stop. its a loonnnggggggggg story, im just so fed up i am past caring already

[Northerner]

he is in his 40's... she miscarried 2 years ago, the cause..... be ready for this, its some sort of STD he picked up in Thailand. chlamydia (had to google that for the spelling)... so sad but if she lets him get away with all this the abuse will never stop. its a loonnnggggggggg story, im just so fed up i am past caring already

I know what I'd do if I was her.. But if I said it, it might get me banned from this forum, so..

The fact that he returns from Thailand with STDs makes me think he is having unprotected sex with prostitutes Tell her to get a full test, HIV, the works.. But she really needs to get rid of this guy.

Tell her to sleep with his boss, that'll mess his head up

[Tawi2]

No way,his bosses todger might develop those gungy pustular eruptions and leak snot coloured puss after sleeping with her,she really needs to leave that guy but you know what?She wont

[Northerner]

No way,his bosses todger might develop those gungy pustular eruptions and leak snot coloured puss after sleeping with her,she really needs to leave that guy but you know what?She wont

Yeah.. Instant career kill

*Sigh*.. Tawi is right, she will never leave him and we all know it So, just tell her to either leave him or shut up about it

Perhaps that will push her to seriously consider it.

[maria_and_matt]

I know what I'd do if I was her.. But if I said it, it might get me banned from this forum, so..

The fact that he returns from Thailand with STDs makes me think he is having unprotected sex with prostitutes Tell her to get a full test, HIV, the works.. But she really needs to get rid of this guy.

Tell her to sleep with his boss, that'll mess his head up

i told her to poison him

but i have told her to go to the hospital and have a HIV test done regularly.

her husband is mean, she told me that sometimes when they have sex he covers her face with a pillow

i told her to transfer the moeny they have to an account he does not know of and leave. told her she is better off without him, but she keeps on telling me she loves him and she is praying that he will change. i told her the chances of that happening is so slim. at the end of the day its her life maybe i should just cut off all communicatuon and leave them to it. she gets me down..

[Tawi2]

Covers her face with a pillow you know there are shops in Pinas that sell cyanide for fishermen under the counter?Or she can get castor beans or make abrin,a poisonous lectin from the seeds of.............

[Northerner]

i told her to poison him

but i have told her to go to the hospital and have a HIV test done regularly.

First of all, why the is she still having sex with this

her husband is mean, she told me that sometimes when they have sex he covers her face with a pillow

Just when I thought I couldn't dislike this guy any more, you lay a belter on me I'd have him playing wifey in the Bangkok Hilton if I was your friend The evil things I'd do to him just can't be mentioned

i told her to transfer the moeny they have to an account he does not know of and leave. told her she is better off without him, but she keeps on telling me she loves him and she is praying that he will change. i told her the chances of that happening is so slim. at the end of the day its her life maybe i should just cut off all communicatuon and leave them to it. she gets me down..

[Sophie]

at the end of the day its her life maybe i should just cut off all communicatuon and leave them to it. she gets me down..

That's sort of what i did to my martyr friend back home maria, i got so fed up about her crying and not doing anything about it.....
so i shut down on her, i told her i don't wanna hear about her husband and her crying and moaning about that jerk again....
i told her i've had enough listening to thesame nonsense over and over again, and that i'm so sick of seeing how pathetic she is already.....

I also told her i'm so disappointed with her coz she used to be something before this jerk came along,
she used to be smart and beautiful and confident about herself and she let this jerk took it all away
and made her feel she's not good enough and she doesn't deserve better, and that's what made me really mad.....
she let him take away the best side of her and her self worth and self respect and that's what disappointed me so much
because i've known her to be better than that.....and it's sad she let him strip her off of her dignity and did not refuse to be a victim....

I love my friend but sometimes you have to exercise tough love as i want the best for her, sadly she doesn't realize what's best for her.....
Maybe your friend needs some tough love too maria, she needs to get back to her senses before its too late......

[Sophie]

her husband is mean, she told me that sometimes when they have sex he covers her face with a pillow

why does he cover her face with pillow when they have sex? Is it because he is so disgusted to see her face and turns him off
or he enjoys brutal sex and derives sexual pleasure from inflicting pain and suffering during sex?
Either way, he is a monster, if i were on her place and he did that, the husband will be in the hospital ICU by now or probably on his funeral already ....

[britishdetained]

i told her to poison him

but i have told her to go to the hospital and have a HIV test done regularly.

her husband is mean, she told me that sometimes when they have sex he covers her face with a pillow

i told her to transfer the moeny they have to an account he does not know of and leave. told her she is better off without him, but she keeps on telling me she loves him and she is praying that he will change. i told her the chances of that happening is so slim. at the end of the day its her life maybe i should just cut off all communicatuon and leave them to it. she gets me down..

He should seek psychological help.

too much flirting with girls, and now he is covering her face with pillow...that is mentally sick bas***. Your friend must see a psychologist too as she allows those thing to her. Both are not normal. Good that they dont have any children as I would pity the children more than her. She needs to respect herself by leaving that w****r.

[britishdetained]

If my husband do that to me...well his parents would start collecting parts of his body from different parts of the Philippines

[D&G]

her husband is mean, she told me that sometimes when they have sex he covers her face with a pillow

strange...but did she try to ask her hubby why ..whats the reason behind his unusual behaviour? i find it strange really but it could also be the wifey is too noisy while doing the deed so he has to quite her down

[trader dave]

strange...but did she try to ask her hubby why ..whats the reason behind his unusual behaviour? i find it strange really but it could also be the wifey is too noisy while doing the deed so he has to quite her down

oooooo we are talking about the pillow over the face i cant comment on that

but some women do like to be abused ,dominated even forced to have sex ,roll play it turns them on TRUE


i did not realy mean that sorry

i meant why does this guy or any guy come to that need to be unfaithfull???

me and MRS T have discussed this like we have everything ,no boundaries ,no secrets , a guy is not unfaithfull for nothing ??? right or wrong ??? the guys 40 + he is not a young studd of 20 that needs sex every 2 mins ------ can you see where i am going on this ?????

i will wait for further comment before i carry on

[Sophie]

he is in his 40's... she miscarried 2 years ago, the cause..... be ready for this, its some sort of STD he picked up in Thailand. chlamydia (had to google that for the spelling)... so sad but if she lets him get away with all this the abuse will never stop. its a loonnnggggggggg story, im just so fed up i am past caring already

I had a friend exactly like yours back home, she is like the queen of all martyr's and all she does is cry and seek my comfort and sympathy.....
but in the end, i got fed up of hearing thesame thing and giving my advise over and over but she never listens, like i'm talking to a wall.....
Like you, i also got to a point where i've gone past caring already and i wanted so much to just hit her head on the wall so she wakes up and gets to her senses.....