Tawi, kids here in the UK are often shy and quiet before they go to University or College.Originally Posted by Tawi2
I have known quite a few women who started out quiet,demure,shyOnce they are abroad and their family ties are cast off they become totally different people with a whole new persona
Not all of them but enough so its noticeable
The experience of being away from home in an open minded environment can totally transform these kids, they grow up, develop opinions, assert themselves, they become self confident.
In a sense going abroad for a naturally shy Filipino is a very similar experience but one that has gets deferred until that exposure to the foreign culture actually happens.
Doesn't matter how old you are, we all change throughout our lives sometimes for the better sometimes for the worse. For me I would expect the change of environment to bring change to the person, I think it unlikely that the person would remain static not growing into the new environment they find themselves in?
For what it is worth the amount of time I've spent in the Philippines has definitely changed me (for the better I hope) I had attained an old fart mentality by the time I first went to the Philsbut I have a much more optimistic outlook on life these days
Maria, you're in a hellish position, if your friend's story is anywhere near accurate then she is in the company of a dangerous, sick, selfish man and needs to escape.
It's no different to a disfunctional relationship anywhere else, just more tragic given the hope for a better future that is often implicit in a Philippine/Foreigner relationship.
You cant fix it for her and you need to be blunt with her.
I had a Catholic upbringing, I understand the faith but enough is enough when a man treats his wife that way.
Pillow? jeez. :(
Jim
