whats my chance of long term success??

[Matt7]

Personally I think your outlook on this whole thing is very silly and naive. True love generally doesn't come around by having a "masterplan", you're just looking to have your **** handed to you by a scammer, especially considering the time frame this apparent "masterplan" seems to have

I'm sorry if I've been blunt and people object, I don't mean to offend...but to me it seems like you're in love with "filipina", and nobody in particular. When you draw such distinctions your relationship is pretty much doomed from the start


Why not chill, take your time, get to know lots of people, Do the same as you would if you wanted to date an English girl. Maybe become friends first before getting serious. Don't treat this as if you're buying a car from a dealer, it doesn't do anybody any good

[Tawi2]

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[jakeob]

Personally I think your outlook on this whole thing is very silly and naive. True love generally doesn't come around by having a "masterplan", you're just looking to have your **** handed to you by a scammer, especially considering the time frame this apparent "masterplan" seems to have

I'm sorry if I've been blunt and people object, I don't mean to offend...but to me it seems like you're in love with "filipina", and nobody in particular. When you draw such distinctions your relationship is pretty much doomed from the start

Well i am not in love with anybody at this stage, i am in the early stages of finding somebody, i am just trying to find out even if i have a chance with the cinario i put forward.

Why not chill, take your time, get to know lots of people, Do the same as you would if you wanted to date an English girl. Maybe become friends first before getting serious. Don't treat this as if you're buying a car from a dealer, it doesn't do anybody any good

I simply cant do this just like i would with an english girl because, i dont live in the same country, i think youv got the wrong end off the stick with my question as i am just trying to feel out if what i am imaging, has any chance off success, i have already changed my search to look for a woman with a child, and now i think i should up the age range.

The girl i am chatting with right now probably wont be the girl who i finaly und up going to visit.

no offence taken

[IainBusby]

i have already changed my search to look for a woman with a child, and now i think i should up the age range.

The only problem with that is that if she has a child then the child will have a father, which can cause problems with regard to visas. The other problem is that the childs father may also be her husband which can lead to a lengthy and costly annulment. You must be very careful with things like this. Some Filipina's might not want to admit that they are still married for fear of putting you off.

Because things are only at a chatting stage, they just assume that you don't need to know things like that because you'll probably never come to visit them anyway. We have even had guys on here that have said "their girl is not quite sure if she is still or legally married or not"

The girl i am chatting with right now probably wont be the girl who i finaly und up going to visit.

Very Wise. Take your time, chat to as many as you can and as long as your honest with them and don't lead them on unnecessarily then that's OK. Eventually you'll find one that shines through and if your anything like me, you'll know. Remember the old saying, "you have to kiss a lot of frogs etc etc" just substitute "Chat To" for "Kiss".

Iain.

[jakeob]

Yes Ian ,,good point the last thing i want is a married woman, way to messy for me. But might be better to pay off a the kids dad, rather than having to tackle the problem of not being able to gives kids to my 23yr old beauty,,,,hmm not an easy one but having babies is not easy in its self.

But your right, keep talking and see who shines through, best to try and start on the right foot before i even get on a plane.