Just been lied to

[LadyJ]

So I've been chatting with this girl for about 4 months now, and it seemed things were going well, we get on great and I was planning to visit her in october.. until today that is.

When we chatted a few days ago she asked me if I had a Facebook account, I did before but deleted it. I asked her if she was on there and her answer was no, that she didn't have time for it with having friendster as well. I did a little check today on facebook and there she was. It looked like she had only recently joined as her pic was the most recent one she had added on fs. She only had the 2 friends on facebook, two handsome looking foreign guys

I really can't stand lies in a relationship. At the moment I just feel like dropping her. What would you guys do?

GIve her a chance to explain. That's all I can say.

[Tawi2]

Is she exclusive?The only women your chatting to online?Have you made any form of commitment to her whatsoever?If the answer is yes then that changes the situation,if the answers no then relax,she really is looking around just like a guy would do,no shame or harm intended on her part,you have to sift a lot of mud to discover a diamond.

[Sophie]

Is she exclusive?The only women your chatting to online?Have you made any form of commitment to her whatsoever?If the answer is yes then that changes the situation,if the answers no then relax,she really is looking around just like a guy would do,no shame or harm intended on her part,you have to sift a lot of mud to discover a diamond.

I agree on this one

[Northerner]

Tawi is correct my friend. She could have a number of reasons for this. One is that these men each sent her an invite to facebook. So when she does actually join, with the same email address - they are automatically her friends!

And if she is still talking to them, what does it mean? Are you engaged? You say you have been talking for 4 months and you plan to go over in October! Does she take you seriously?

Remember, she has more to lose than you do at this stage in the relationship. Speak to her but try not to get angry with her. Just ask and she will explain.

I know the girl I am seeing now had at least 2 other guy's interested in her. So what! Take a look below at her picture, a lot of guy's should be interested in her She also had a myspace page she never told me about.. Again, so what. It is old and only 1 friend on it with littl else. Probably forgotten about in the last so many months.. In all seriousness, Go to see her in October! Spend time with her and see how things pan out, if it is not meant to be, you had a nice holiday with a pretty lady. It's all good!