In love, its very easy to get hurt. I'm sure most of us would have liked to be the only person our partners ever fell for, and likewise I'm sure most of them would have like to be the one and only for us.
1 relationship in 13 years? I'd think myself lucky, and wouldnt have been at all surprised at this story. I'm sure it hurts, but not for any logical reason, merely emotions and pride coming to the fore, and they are running high at the moment as they always do when we fall in love.
I'm not sure if I understand you statute of limitations reference. Surely that applies to ability to prosecute (or, in this case, feel bad about it), rather than brushing it under the carpet.
In her shoes, I might well have told the story as well. It shows the value she puts on her reputation and how she behaves as much as shows she is mortal and has needs as we all do.
In my current relationship I have felt happy, sad, hurt, honored, proud and dismayed, and sometimes most of them at the same time. I know Ive made her feel pretty bad at times as well as pretty good, but we've always felt in love, and we've known for a long time we want to be together.
I'm rambling now, but in a nutshell -
Sometimes love hurts - get over it.
