Hello all need some help i have just sent my wife back home to pinoy because she show me no love did not kiss or hold my hand,was very lazzy,She is 21 i am 46 and i love her a lot, she also had been texting 3 men . Do we have a future ?
Hello all need some help i have just sent my wife back home to pinoy because she show me no love did not kiss or hold my hand,was very lazzy,She is 21 i am 46 and i love her a lot, she also had been texting 3 men . Do we have a future ?
computer says no?
i have learnt to do what my wife says!
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Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
Doesn't sound very promising.Originally Posted by socool007
can i ask as she always been like this?
are you on a spouse or fiancee visa,have you talked this over,do you have any reasons why it became like this?
what did she say about the texting and being lazy.
i was joking before but only you can talk it through,its seems to me age difference and culture differences even personality differences come to mind.
only the both of you can figure this out?
i have learnt to do what my wife says!
Agree with you on this BAB
It's good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it's good to check up once in a while to make sure you haven't lost the things that money can't buy.
Sorry do not agree with you about LESS TALK, LESS MISTAKES! one prob was that she would not talk,text were british .we are on a spouse visa.she also takes lots of pics of herself but none of us both.I hope to save this marriage
That is only my signature
Im hoping that you will save the marriage, but u cannot do that alone, unless you both can communicate and talk about the issue?
I wish u all the best
It's good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it's good to check up once in a while to make sure you haven't lost the things that money can't buy.
goodluck to you!
can you not think when it started to change,joe pointed out some good points!
how was you guys doing until it got like this?
you really need to talk to her and ask her side of things and get really deep with her,if me and my wife were on the brink i would be doing all i can and beg her to stay before i let her go.
what did you guys do together,did you work all the time,what did she get upto all day?
did you make sure she was kept busy when she was alone.
i have learnt to do what my wife says!
Hope u can sort the problems out soon
All the best
It's good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it's good to check up once in a while to make sure you haven't lost the things that money can't buy.
was she always like this or has she changed over time ?
maybe she's bored, suffering depression ?, home sick, no friends or family here. not so exciting for some filipina's when the excitement of being in a new country wears off.
any idea's who the guys are or what was being texted ?
I was wondering, whether she was depressed, feeling isolated, culture shock etc?
She worked alot of nights.All day she would go on laptop on fraindster.com.She has an anty here but she would not talk with her about anything.
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Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
i have friendster as well i go online every next day but if my husband is here i give my all time and attention to him cause his more important than my friendster
Oh dear me
Just hope and pray for you both
LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL
She went back sat just gone she phoned me when she got home but it was only to ask for my help because could not get money from ATM,pants ah.
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Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
absence makes the heart grow fonder,
Hello I remember you, you waited for your wifes visa quite awhile because of her age. I was following that thread
Sorry to hear about what happened. Maybe she did not like the uk. She arrived there just late last year i think, it is vey quick of her to change attitude
Warren and Winnie
dont realy know about your situation but i have a young wife and i am getting along in years my wife is so close to me and so hot
i might be posting the same message as you next year
you have to ask the question WHAT HAS HAPPENED has she changed ,have you changed ,is she bored ,is she missing her family did she socialise a lot with friends in the philippines
its a bit late now to say it was a mistake ...but many mistakes do happen
can a marriage survive if you are at different ends of the world
She was better.
oh no... its so sad to hear... just what other had said, try to figure out when did it happened.. what are the possible reason why she had changed... youre married now, you better solve the problem, save the relationship. i hope she's also working out to solve this problem!
age doesnt matter, before you get married you both know the consequences especially the big gap...
give her time to think, then dont forget to communicate - its the most important thing. remember the things you've been through before you have each other (i mean all the visa processing, the tension while waiting)..
Godbless you too...
hi socool,
sorry to hear what happened about u and ur wife..If I remember it right u were one of the couples in here who have waited longer for their visa because of ur wife's age right?
anyway, with regards to ur situation I hope you dont mind if I ask u few questions.. based on your posts u have just sent ur wife back home to the Philippines because...
- Have u talk to her about this? In what ways u think she's not showing love to u anymore?has she been like that since she arrived here in the UK or just recently? Are u already aware of the filipina sulking, so called "TAMPO"? Have u had a fight or any arguments that caused her not to kiss you or hold ur hand?
in terms of what u think she is lazy?is it with household chores? has she been always like that? is she working she might be too tired from her work thats why she sometimes feel lazy because I do believe filipinas are known for being hard working people..
I dont see something wrong if she's texting 3 men as long as there's no hanky panky involve with it and she knows her limitation. She might be just texting her dad, her brother or some male friends?
And if u are asking me if u have a future, I think it's only the two of you who can answer that question..It will be better if u have a heart to heart talk and tell her how u feel, have an open communication.. I dont think age difference is an issue in here as long as you love each other and both are willing to compromise.
Goodluck and wishing you all the best..
No the 3 men she meet in pub.she did work some nights but always on laptop.
have u asked her already why is she texting those men?She might be feeling home sick or missing her family and friends in the Philippines. It is not easy to be miles away from them, especially if they were so close to each other.Is it your mutual decision for her to settle here in the UK?
Though I still believe it takes two to tango, we dont know the other side of the coin and for me it still better if you talk to each other openly and discuss what is best for ur marriage.. Goodluck..
as my wife said its not a good sign if she is not sharing pictures of you BOTH on friendster i hear many storys of the things that do go on friendster
even in your avatar picture your wife does look cold to me
if she has always been like this then i have to say she would not have been my cup of tea
i have been involved with the phil anglo community for a lot of years and i have seen many couples here in the uk
i have seen quite a few younger pilipna who suddenly change as soon as they get to the uk they start texting guys, they want to go out on there own[without you] with FRIENDS
normaly a few months later they have a YOUNGER BOYFRIEND i have seen it to many times
reading between the lines i think maybe you made the right decision sending her back home
I will endorse your comments Dave,I have been around a bit like yourself,I was never a badge-wearing member of the "pinays are the best wives in the world"club because I never once looked at them as Filipinas nor understood the odd fascination some guys had with them,I always look at them as women first long before I would mention their ethnicity,I have known several "Age doesnt matter" kids who married older guys got to the land of opportunity and changed their characters quite quickly,I also know a few who turned into wives from hell,I hope this case is different and the love isnt one way trafficTheres an old chinese saying "Many are the tales with good beginings,fewer are those with happy endings"
Sometimes you're flush and sometimes you're bust, and when you're up, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're down, you never think you'll be up again. But life goes on.
The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the passion that she shows to the outside world.
So sad
In your shoes I would move on, after all the decision is yours.
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