No sex before marriage??

[jakeob]

[QUOTE=bornatbirth;168959]shouldnt you get a divorce first?

Thanks for reminding me about my divorce, i can assure you i have got this in hand, and probably to your surprise i do tell girls online about my situation.


when you meet the lucky girl,do you really think they are queueing up to have sex when there foreigner bf visits for the first time

If you read the post this is nothing to do with sex on the first trip, its sex before marriage


why will you be so disappointed,courting your future wife and meeting her family and getting to know each other in person is more important than heading to the hotel room before you can wipe the sweat from your brow as you exit the airport and the heat hits you?

Theres nothing wrong getting to know a girl and her familly, and i am not sure where you get the idea i am some kind of sex maniac, i could be in the phils for months on my first trip.


wouldnt you be better off going straight to the girly bars

If all i was interest in was girly bars, we wouldnt be having this coversation,

regards n

[Bluebirdjones]

Thanks for reminding me about my divorce, i can assure you i have got this in hand, and probably to your surprise i do tell girls online about my situation.

If I recall correctly, you had to come on this site to ask if you were married or not !

...so, what exactly do you tell them... "Well, I think I'm married, but then again I'm not too sure". ?

I think she'll be totally re-assured by that, and especially the bit about your spouse being refused a vissa for entry to the UK.


... and this bit about sexual relationship.... why can't you just say to her, "I'd like to visit you in the Philippines, take you for lunch, do some sight-seeing together, and if you think it's then appropriate, meet some of your family. I want to meet you as a friend, pure and simple .... and then lets see how we think about each other, and if we BOTH want things to develop further".

In my opinion, the "sex" thing should not even be discussed at this point in the (early) relationship.

[Sophie]

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... and this bit about sexual relationship.... why can't you just say to her, "I'd like to visit you in the Philippines, take you for lunch, do some sight-seeing together, and if you think it's then appropriate, meet some of your family. I want to meet you as a friend, pure and simple .... and then lets see how we think about each other, and if we BOTH want things to develop further".

In my opinion, the "sex" thing should not even be discussed at this point in the (early) relationship.

i agree well said bluebirdjones

[jakeob]

yes i ask for advice on this site and since i got the advice i have been in contact with my local court, and i have this situation in hand.

As for the girl i am talking about she has been told . "I am married , it didnt work out, and my divorce is in hand. i cant see the big problem with that.

the point you raise about the the rejection of my previous visa, has no relation to this thread, other than attacking me personaly so dont see the point in explaing what happend there.

And the sexual relationship "She brought up" not me , thats partly why i started this thread the fact "She" had mentioned this and the fact she had put this stipulation on our future relationship

[bornatbirth]

the point you raise about the the rejection of my previous visa

when did i mention this?

its good that your getting your divorce settled,i just dont understand guys getting involved in relationships before they have any previous sorted!

[Bluebirdjones]

If SHE had to bring up SEX, then she’s obviously still very unsure about you (in my opinion), and “a cleaver person” would have stopped that conversation immediately with “I’m coming to visit you due to our friendship, and see how and if we want to build a greater relationship. If you think I’m traveling all that way for a sexual adventure, then you really do not know me or understand me, and I think that perhaps we should agree to end this now ”

… and the visa ? ….. yeah, below the belt.
But that’s what you get when you reveal too much.

My advice ? …. Play your cards closer to your chest. We (the forum) don’t need to know all the nuts & bolts about past, present, future relationships.

[jakeob]

No!!! it wasnt you Bornatbirth it was bluebirdjones who mentioned the visa thing.

But yes i see your point about finnishing one thing before you start another but its just a paper exersize that can be sorted out with some effort. so why not make a start, as long as i am honest

[bornatbirth]

as long as i am honest

theres nothing wrong it that,just chat as friends because theres no need to rush.

besides you will meet and chat to many filipinas and have a think about the type of girl you would like to meet?