Bystander,
I respect your opinion but I beg to differ. Women in this country are changing and yes the women's lib movement has impacted society, and we have yet to work out what to do next. But that is part and parcel of an evolving society
And I do not think that a young girl who drinks vodka and coke, has sexual relations before getting married is a s
g. In fact, I would argue that the very word "s
g" was developed during the time when the UK was closer in Christian dominated values to the Philippines as a way to put women down and maintain the status quo.
However, it is not just the women's liberation movement that is having an impact into this country but also the secular movement taking us away from religious dogma and control. Now I do not wish to engage anyone with a debate on the ethics of religion or the fundamentals of those religions, and if I do so I hope I do not offend anyone's beliefs, but this country has long been moving towards a model of none religious governance. And it is the freedom from religion and the sexual controls built into those religions that the newer generations are now living with.
Most young women today will learn to be independent, due in part to the lower wages on offer and so it is almost impossible for one partner to work for a living whilst the other stays home to bring up the children. But accordingly and at the same time, women have been getting more integrated in the workplace and having careers of their own. This is also happening all over the world now, only the poorest societies have any problems with women making a living, but they too are changing.
Also, I take issue with the moral compass you refer to. Premarital sex is only immoral if it is the Bible or the Koran that you use for a moral compass! But we can do better than this, as everyone ignores the Bible when it prescribes stoning your bride on her fathers doorstep when you discover she is not a virgin, or when it prescribes only two threads to be worn by women. Yet the so called moral compass that virginity is a part of also comes from these books! Our religions are sexist in nature, the Bible says woman came from man, and values her life to less than a man. The Koran says that a mans testimony can only be offset by the testimony of two women. Women are expected to live in service to their fathers then finally to their husband. Saint Peter wrote "wives be subject to your husband, as to the lord. As the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church". This was the attitude taught to countless people throughout history and still today. And is the reason we find ourselves at a point where we are lost as a society! We have rejected the morals of the Holy Books and are trying to figure out a new way. And in that process, a few drink too much or become reckless. All part of growing up
I argue that morality is a matter of opinion. And if it is your opinion to be a virgin till you marry, then you have all the right and blessing from all to do so. However, if a young woman decides to live a sexual life then settle down a few years after these experiences, she has the same right. And if you don't like it, don't marry her.
So, why did I choose a Filipina? Excellent question! And one I will probably have a different answer for every time I think about it. But it was not for a demure sexual plaything, or an obedient wife. Yes, family is important to me but only so long as it is within an equal setting. I find Filipino women very attractive, I think the accent is very sweet; the height of a Filipina is perfect to me (I am 5,8) and she wants a family. The reasons could go on... British women are amazing and in many ways I am proudest when I see British women making their mark in the world, showing the world how far we have moved on. But I suppose I like adventure and the Filipina offers me that! Every man on here will answer the question differently, and they all have their own reasons.
Originally Posted by Northerner
Bystander,
