Three Countries

[JimOttley]

I can imagine how hard it is for you and your family. I think this is the one of the most complicated LDR I have read. Being away from your partner is hard enough and learning that she is in another country away from the your kids too makes it more complicated.

If you don't mind me asking, I assume the relatives take care of the kids, but how do you get to see them online? How often? Sorry if you find me invasive.

Take care.

We had a computer and SmartBro 3G modem in Manila but the computer appears to have packed in shortly after Ana left to go to Korea, it will be something trivial for me to fix if I were there no doubt but it means that they have to go to an internet cafe just now.

At the moment Nanay is looking after the kids she has lived with us for nearly the last 5 years, I hate that she has to look after 2 young children for us at her age, as she has worked so hard all her life to bring up her own kids she deserves a rest, but we had no other choice if we were to get the papers we needed for the Philippine authorities.

At the moment Ana gets to borrow a laptop from a Filipino neighbour in Korea and we just use yahoo and webcam.

To answer your question at the moment we maybe get to see the kids once a month, when Ana is in Manila and the computer is working I would get to see them every couple of days.

On our own computer in Manila, I use Skype for video calls but most internet cafe's just have yahoo available.

At least Ana will be back home in a few days time.


jim

[monkeyface]

Hi Jim,

Thanks for answering my question. I had to ask cos my brother was in the same situation before. He's working abroad and his wife worked here but lived in a different place. The kids were left under the care of my brother's in-laws. He had always told me how difficult it is, since his in-laws are not very good with computers. He only got to see his kids on weekends when his wife is home. Fortunately, things have changed for them.

I understand how you feel about your Nanay but I have to say it is better than leaving the kids with strangers. It is said that grandparents love their grandchildren more than they love their own children, which I don't think is a bad thing.

I'm glad to hear Ana will be home soon and you will be able to see them more often.

Take care and I wish you and your family all the best.

[JimOttley]

Hi Jim,

Thanks for answering my question. I had to ask cos my brother was in the same situation before. He's working abroad and his wife worked here but lived in a different place. The kids were left under the care of my brother's in-laws. He had always told me how difficult it is, since his in-laws are not very good with computers. He only got to see his kids on weekends when his wife is home. Fortunately, things have changed for them.

I understand how you feel about your Nanay but I have to say it is better than leaving the kids with strangers. It is said that grandparents love their grandchildren more than they love their own children, which I don't think is a bad thing.

I'm glad to hear Ana will be home soon and you will be able to see them more often.

Take care and I wish you and your family all the best.

Our family is huge we would never leave the kids with strangers if the worst came to the worst Ana's brother would have taken them in, he has a really nice house at the extreme edge of north Calaocan and is a very good man.

At least nanay will get a break now that Ana will be home.


Jim

[JimOttley]

Well in 8 minutes time Ana leaves Korea so we will be back to just TWO countries

Jim

[Arthur Little]

Thanks for sharing your lovely family photos with us, Jim. Roll on the day when you will all be together again!

[JimOttley]

Thanks for sharing your lovely family photos with us, Jim. Roll on the day when you will all be together again!

Thanks Arthur

Ana is back on the ground safe at NAIA just going through immigration and customs now