slightly annoyed with my 'family'

[nigel]

Filipinas very much love their families and make big sacrifices for them, my Vimvie does, I don't try to stop her but I wish she could realize that SACRIFICE/COMPRIMISE is bad!

Taking out loans so you can give your family even more money is just ridiculous!

My motto is:

If you have recieved an abundance of money, then your in a position to give money!

If you have little money and you are even giving that, then you are SACRIFICING not giving, COMPRIMISING your own well being, you are leaving yourself with nothing, you simply can't do that cause your life matters too!

You should never "comprimise" yourself! Ensure your own needs are met first!

[bornatbirth]

so so sad to say that they are my immediate family.. my hubby gave me £1k for the box, that is almost gone, i am now using my own savings. i am so sick of this box already it is giving me stress..

do you have trouble saying no?

if so can i have £1000

btw why buy new games when you can get 20 fake games in the philipines for half the price of a new game in the uk?

Filipinas very much love their families and make big sacrifices for them, my Vimvie does, I don't try to stop her but I wish she could realize that SACRIFICE/COMPRIMISE is bad!

Taking out loans so you can give your family even more money is just ridiculous!

My motto is:

If you have recieved an abundance of money, then your in a position to give money!

If you have little money and you are even giving that, then you are SACRIFICING not giving, COMPRIMISING your own well being, you are leaving yourself with nothing, you simply can't do that cause your life matters too!

You should never "comprimise" yourself! Ensure your own needs are met first!

well said

[maria_and_matt]

Filipinas very much love their families and make big sacrifices for them, my Vimvie does, I don't try to stop her but I wish she could realize that SACRIFICE/COMPRIMISE is bad!

Taking out loans so you can give your family even more money is just ridiculous!

My motto is:

If you have recieved an abundance of money, then your in a position to give money!

If you have little money and you are even giving that, then you are SACRIFICING not giving, COMPRIMISING your own well being, you are leaving yourself with nothing, you simply can't do that cause your life matters too!

You should never "comprimise" yourself! Ensure your own needs are met first!

we buy the games here as a bundle, i got a nintendo dsi with 2 games that they wanted, and i am not so sure if the games back home will work with the consoles brought here.

my husband and i give them money we have, we do not intend to borrow so we can finance their 'wants'. i am just fairly lucky that my husband lets me do all the things i do for my family without moaning. i do not work and all of the things that i give my family is from my husband.. i never asked him to do this for me or my family, he lost his parents 8 yrs ago and he told me that he considers my family as his now, and does not mind helping out, but i think that my family is abusing my husbands generosity.

[jaishann]

my husband and i give them money we have, we do not intend to borrow so we can finance their 'wants'. i am just fairly lucky that my husband lets me do all the things i do for my family without moaning. i do not work and all of the things that i give my family is from my husband.. i never asked him to do this for me or my family, he lost his parents 8 yrs ago and he told me that he considers my family as his now, and does not mind helping out, but i think that my family is abusing my husbands generosity. [/QUOTE]

just be reminded my dear that needs and wants are two different things. as we all dont know what the future brings , think about yourselves as well as there will be time you might need help and you'd be upset if you spent it all when you had it and nothings left when you need it..

[pumpkins]

hi maria..i know every filipina have a different kind of situation in terms of family..
of course if one of my family member need help,i will give a helping hand in time of their needs.i dont have a heartstone but if they become abusive,well well well i wont accept that..my family knew me anyway as
" kuripot ".
and about the money thing, it should be discuss between husband and wife

[IainBusby]

hi maria..i know every filipina have a different kind of situation in terms of family..
of course if one of my family member need help,i will give a helping hand in time of their needs.i dont have a heartstone but if they become abusive,well well well i wont accept that..my family knew me anyway as
" kuripot ".
and about the money thing, it should be discuss between husband and wife

I'd rather be seen as kuripot than as a soft touch.

[maria_and_matt]

I'd rather be seen as kuripot than as a soft touch.

there is nothing wrong with being seen as a soft touch, my husband told me that he feels so much better knowing my mum is well cared for. i think that between the 2 of us i am the kuripot one. but he always explains to me the need to share what we have. his parents died just after we got married and he sees my family as his family and does everything to make sure they are alright.

[IainBusby]

there is nothing wrong with being seen as a soft touch, my husband told me that he feels so much better knowing my mum is well cared for. i think that between the 2 of us i am the kuripot one. but he always explains to me the need to share what we have. his parents died just after we got married and he sees my family as his family and does everything to make sure they are alright.

I myself am quite prepared and do "make sure they are alright" and I'm quite sure that they are in fact, better off than they have ever been before. But I find that just "being alright" is a far cry from what they want, or what they expected when their daughter married a Brit and went to live in the land of milk and honey.

Iain.

[gWaPito]

I'd rather be seen as kuripot than as a soft touch.

I like cheap Charlie