slightly annoyed with my 'family'

[jaishann]

my husband and i give them money we have, we do not intend to borrow so we can finance their 'wants'. i am just fairly lucky that my husband lets me do all the things i do for my family without moaning. i do not work and all of the things that i give my family is from my husband.. i never asked him to do this for me or my family, he lost his parents 8 yrs ago and he told me that he considers my family as his now, and does not mind helping out, but i think that my family is abusing my husbands generosity. [/QUOTE]

just be reminded my dear that needs and wants are two different things. as we all dont know what the future brings , think about yourselves as well as there will be time you might need help and you'd be upset if you spent it all when you had it and nothings left when you need it..

[pumpkins]

hi maria..i know every filipina have a different kind of situation in terms of family..
of course if one of my family member need help,i will give a helping hand in time of their needs.i dont have a heartstone but if they become abusive,well well well i wont accept that..my family knew me anyway as
" kuripot ".
and about the money thing, it should be discuss between husband and wife

[IainBusby]

hi maria..i know every filipina have a different kind of situation in terms of family..
of course if one of my family member need help,i will give a helping hand in time of their needs.i dont have a heartstone but if they become abusive,well well well i wont accept that..my family knew me anyway as
" kuripot ".
and about the money thing, it should be discuss between husband and wife

I'd rather be seen as kuripot than as a soft touch.

[maria_and_matt]

I'd rather be seen as kuripot than as a soft touch.

there is nothing wrong with being seen as a soft touch, my husband told me that he feels so much better knowing my mum is well cared for. i think that between the 2 of us i am the kuripot one. but he always explains to me the need to share what we have. his parents died just after we got married and he sees my family as his family and does everything to make sure they are alright.

[IainBusby]

there is nothing wrong with being seen as a soft touch, my husband told me that he feels so much better knowing my mum is well cared for. i think that between the 2 of us i am the kuripot one. but he always explains to me the need to share what we have. his parents died just after we got married and he sees my family as his family and does everything to make sure they are alright.

I myself am quite prepared and do "make sure they are alright" and I'm quite sure that they are in fact, better off than they have ever been before. But I find that just "being alright" is a far cry from what they want, or what they expected when their daughter married a Brit and went to live in the land of milk and honey.

Iain.

[gWaPito]

I'd rather be seen as kuripot than as a soft touch.

I like cheap Charlie