i wanna badge...please...please...please...go on i be ur best friend...lolOriginally Posted by Win2Win
Wannabe Liverpool fan....we haven't sent you a badge yet.....now get grovelling
i wanna badge...please...please...please...go on i be ur best friend...lolWannabe Liverpool fan....we haven't sent you a badge yet.....now get grovelling
POWER TO THE PEACEFUL. MABUHAY IRELAND AND PHILIPPINES
very well saidHey Guy's,
I think we have all noticed recently a number of members getting themselves banned from this forum at various times and for basically the same reason. And the reason is simple - being abusive!
The fact is that this forum deals with very human emotions and people who are either living with the person they have found from the other side of the world, or people going through the struggle that comes with having a relationship over such a long distance. Both situations cause varying degrees of problems! Obviously, for those of us (including myself) who are trying to have a relationship over the telephone, email and instant messenger and the problems coming with it. There are also the people who have been successful at getting their visas and are now living together and married. Giving rise to cultural problems and the heartache felt from leaving a family behind and living on the other side of the planet.
Basically, every single one of us has a story to tell and something that bothers us all!
And there are times when something is written over the forum which will come across as insensitive, intrusive or just plain rude. But it might often be the case that this was not the intention, but words that are written can fail to carry with them the emotions often meant to be portrayed within the writing. Offence is too often the case when you are telling strangers over the internet some of the things you dare not mention to even your closest of relatives, then opening yourself up for the responses by the various people interested to comment, only to find someone making light of what might seem the most important part of your life right now.
I can recall 2 times when I have taken personal offence to things said by members of this forum! After reading those same comments a few times, they seem to lighten and I realize the writer was not meaning to be critical of me or my situation, but trying to give advice to me. Even though I might not like the advice they seemed to give me.
There is also the obvious banter on this site. Banter which can often be sexual in nature (typical of British humour), sometimes a little insensitive at other times. However, it is always meant as a way to diffuse the emotions and tensions that exist within any social grouping. And sadly, is often mistaken for rudeness and/or argumentative. And banter can easily deteriorate into a nasty slanging match leaving the moderators little choice but the banning of those arguing. Also, remember that Keith and the moderators are as the same as you - human and emotional. Imagine coming to this forum as a moderator after a stressful day at work, only to find a poster politely telling you tooff? Do you react with another couple of posts trying to win the argument or simply forget about it and ban the person who is aggravating others?
And why argue? Why fight?
Does giving somebody over the internet a literal beating make you happier with your day? Does it improve the chances of getting your visa? The obvious answer is no, it does not; It is a waste of time, energy and emotion to continue along the lines of a conversation like this!
Basically, my advice to everyone on this forum is to chill out! If somebody says something to you that offends you, forget about it. If somebody is out and out trying to upset people, the mods will get rid of them. No need to react to a person who has little to do than insult people with the hope they will respond in kind. This forum is for advice and support for those of us trying to gain a better understanding of UK and Filipino laws and customs. A place to get help for how to apply for a visa, support from those who have already taken those steps. And a place to make light of life and enjoy some banter with others like ourselves.
Take it easy people
If it's not life threatening IGNORE it .. .
If anyone wants me, I'm in hiding at a secret location
Keith - Administrator
Absit invidia
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Look what the cat has dragged in.....
Where have you been then....???
Any news...?
http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php?t=18341
I think these threads are somewhat preaching to the choir, we're all adults and most of us know how to handle ourselves.
Obviously bystander seemed intent on stirring up arguments and he's a one off, but I'd be disappointed if threads like these led to simply outspoken members like myself being "reigned in" so to speak. There's two sides to every coin, and whilst bystander did overstep the boundaries of decency and deserved what he got, some people are all too keen to see people with strong opinions banished. I guess its to Win2Wins credit that he allows any kinds of opinion, within reason, as it makes this forum much more interesting than one big "love in"
Hi Matt while im sure most on here are adults by legal defintion i do think particularly on this forum many are not used to Internet forums, text speak etc. So many do need pointers and also reassurance that the majority on here dont agree with "having a go at others"
Its like if your in a pub and the Landlord/bouncers who can only act when it gets to a certain level of rowdiness by booting them out and a queit word in the shell like is not having an effect. Often peer pressure I.e half the pub saying will you calm down or leave is far more effective.
I'm sure if you compared this site to many it has a quite high percentage of users who are not normally those who untill recently communicated by Internet,text etc. You only have to see how some people set out their Posts at least at first in a tradtional letter style for example to see.
Other people dont seem to realise the writing they have just put down is not a note pin up on a notice board or stuck on afridge only seen by a handful, but in theory the entire world can read. Also like with emails sometimes its best to read them out to someone else or print them out before pressing the send button.
Im sure Mr admin po Boss Lord of a little hill in Wales, has no problem with people being outspoken and taking a differing view to him and the mods. Otherwise I would have disapeared years ago.
I dont think anyone on here simply wants a Love in, but many on here seek support, help in desperate situations. Often in a highly charged emotional situation due to LDR's, struggles with public bodies, the dread of Visa and other decisions being dealt by goverment offcials, homesickness.
I simply dont see that on the other forums I frequent, on some nearly all the members know one another (football) While on here at least at first the huge majority dont and many have little in common socially.
Now I have not read any of the recent "Issue" threads as been away from the interweb hard at work. So may have as normal the wrong end of the stick.
While a raging arguement say about who is the best striker for saturday's game may get a little charged or if people have a ongoing side row during the
thread it simply doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things.
If that happens in posts where the advice sort is for life changing events like applying for visas, getting your children to the UK or involving complex emotional issues. Someone getting a really dumb reply or being insulted could really hurt and confuse an indivudal.
Oh lord why did you make so many clothes and shoe shops
Thought I would boost this thread back up because a few people might do good to read it. Plus I have a few points to add.... And rather than create a new thread, this one would suffice.
Keith (win2win) always uses humour throughout this forum, often as a way to diffuse otherwise sensitive threads. Sometimes that humour is sexual in nature (well known amongst us Brits), sarcastic even. But should always be taken lightly. He has no need to apologise for every time a person gets offended by his banter. Nor does anyone else need apologise if someone gets the wrong idea from their posts.
Moderators do have the right to close or remove threads. Users do not have the right to respond on this forum – it is a privilege! Now, before anyone shouts at me for free speech (and I am a huge advocate of free speech), when it is clear that a thread is nothing more than a flame baiting exercise, the limits on bandwidth and space means that these threads can get closed down. Genuine debate does happen and those threads run their course and the moderators will leave them alone until they pass into the forgotten world of dead threads.
As for banter. Get used to it!
Amen to that.........
BUT OBVIOUSLY FOR A NEwBIE LIKE ME ,AT LEAST A GIVEN EXPLAINATION AS IM NOT USED TO THAT...wE'RE DEBATING A SERIOUS TOPIC...IT'S OK IF IT'S A MAN TO MAN THING BUT A MAN TO A LADY,IN THIS CASE ME,I DNT FREAKIN KNO MR KEITH...U SHOULD READ wTHE HOLE THING SIR..Thought I would boost this thread back up because a few people might do good to read it. Plus I have a few points to add.... And rather than create a new thread, this one would suffice.
Keith (win2win) always uses humour throughout this forum, often as a way to diffuse otherwise sensitive threads. Sometimes that humour is sexual in nature (well known amongst us Brits), sarcastic even. But should always be taken lightly. He has no need to apologise for every time a person gets offended by his banter. Nor does anyone else need apologise if someone gets the wrong idea from their posts.
Moderators do have the right to close or remove threads. Users do not have the right to respond on this forum – it is a privilege! Now, before anyone shouts at me for free speech (and I am a huge advocate of free speech), when it is clear that a thread is nothing more than a flame baiting exercise, the limits on bandwidth and space means that these threads can get closed down. Genuine debate does happen and those threads run their course and the moderators will leave them alone until they pass into the forgotten world of dead threads.
As for banter. Get used to it!
In the office I work in, banter is how we pass the day! As for reading the whole thread, I did.. And before I made my first post earlier this year I had months of luring on this forum behind me.. I mean...
Also, it makes it easier on the eye if you don't have CAPS LOCK left on!
Caps off please!
Not an expert, I only try to help.
Queen Bee people on here as they do in the UK will often tease and be cheeky with those they know or get on with. We call it banter, the best way if some one is to have a quiet word.
Have a look at the humour on here we all have been in tense situation like you are at the moment waiting to see how you get on with your Tourist Visa.
Trust me of all the regulars no one wants you to get your Visa more than Mr Admin and the Mods. Its part of the reason they are here like many of use who technically have no reason to be here any more is to help others be together with loved ones
Just chill out and ignore Mr Admin po like we all do
Oh lord why did you make so many clothes and shoe shops
IT'S A FREE wORLD MA DEAR...wHO ARE U ANYwAYZZZ wHY U KEEP ON BUGGIN ME?Caps off please!
I do kno that now sir and i apologized and at the same time gave a reason why..i dnt kno them and im not close to them thats hy its a bit offensive for me,call it overeacting but so what?theyre not me,,they dont have the right to judge me...Queen Bee people on here as they do in the UK will often tease and be cheeky with those they know or get on with. We call it banter, the best way if some one is to have a quiet word.
Have a look at the humour on here we all have been in tense situation like you are at the moment waiting to see how you get on with your Tourist Visa.
Trust me of all the regulars no one wants you to get your Visa more than Mr Admin and the Mods. Its part of the reason they are here like many of use who technically have no reason to be here any more is to help others be together with loved ones
Just chill out and ignore Mr Admin po like we all do
Please don't take this the wrong way, it is just for guidance purposes.
For a lady that as you define yourself is "Streetwise", you seem to show very little tolerance or understanding of the various situations on the forum.
When someone posts something that you feel offensive, it is not meant to be that way at all, especially if the post contains "smileys"....
It is just banter, to keep things on the lighter side.
Sexual innuendos are ingrained in the british culture (if they have one at all), and there is nothing you can do or say to change that.
All the pinays on the forum, have learnt that, in the first months or years that they spent in this country.
Sometime it may seem offensive, obviously, because it loses a lot by trying to translate it, but I can assure you that no harm or offense is intended.
If someone mentions "breasts", it is normally meant as a huge compliment, unless that lady in question looks like Imelda Marcos grandmother....
So relax, don't get uptight, try to read old threads and you will see that the they will have some kind of humour in them, enjoy the forum.
CAPS LOCK on the internet is related to standing infront of someone and shouting, and it is annoying to 99%+ of online users.IT'S A FREE wORLD MA DEAR...wHO ARE U ANYwAYZZZ wHY U KEEP ON BUGGIN ME?
Keith - Administrator
Yes free world, free to use of this forum but there are rules that needs to follow! Your CAPS LOCK are everywhere on this forum! It's one of the forum rule not to use CAPS LOCK! So Im not buggin you!!!! Im reminding you!!!IT'S A FREE wORLD MA DEAR...wHO ARE U ANYwAYZZZ wHY U KEEP ON BUGGIN ME?
Not an expert, I only try to help.
Cup of tea anyone?
You'd better put some morphine in it
Keith - Administrator
sorry ma mistake boss but could you please tell ladyj she doesnt sound like reminding me,i think there's a nice way of saying it...And im writing paperwork for school at the same time requiring caps lock,,,AND i know she's the one putting a red mark telling me im overeacting...If she doesnt like me,i dnt like her either...
umm i havent read such rules...sorry,,and yes ur buggin me,if you dont like me like u said stay away from me and just be happy and move on with ur life..Yes free world, free to use of this forum but there are rules that needs to follow! Your CAPS LOCK are everywhere on this forum! It's one of the forum rule not to use CAPS LOCK! So Im not buggin you!!!! Im reminding you!!!
peace
thanx aromulos...ill keep that in mind...Please don't take this the wrong way, it is just for guidance purposes.
For a lady that as you define yourself is "Streetwise", you seem to show very little tolerance or understanding of the various situations on the forum.
When someone posts something that you feel offensive, it is not meant to be that way at all, especially if the post contains "smileys"....
It is just banter, to keep things on the lighter side.
Sexual innuendos are ingrained in the british culture (if they have one at all), and there is nothing you can do or say to change that.
All the pinays on the forum, have learnt that, in the first months or years that they spent in this country.
Sometime it may seem offensive, obviously, because it loses a lot by trying to translate it, but I can assure you that no harm or offense is intended.
If someone mentions "breasts", it is normally meant as a huge compliment, unless that lady in question looks like Imelda Marcos grandmother....
So relax, don't get uptight, try to read old threads and you will see that the they will have some kind of humour in them, enjoy the forum.
call me prude but im still conservative eventhough i dress sexy,but thats just how i dress...im a lady in the streets but a freak in bed
I think you've got a big problem!!What the
REREAD IT AGAIN!!
If that is noot nice way to say it to you, how do you want me to say it then?
umm i havent read such rules...sorry,,and yes ur buggin me,if you dont like me like u said stay away from me and just be happy and move on with ur life..
ANd for the bad rep, Yes Im the one who gave it to you, that's the purpose of the red mark, thats why it was made for. I didn't like your postS! now if you dont like my posts and want to give me a bad rep, go ahead? i dont care! this is not my life!! As you've said it's a free country! in this forum everyone is entitled to say what ever they want to say!!
Not an expert, I only try to help.
I think you've got a big problem!!
REREAD IT AGAIN!!
If that is noot nice way to say it to you, how do you want me to say it then?
ANd for the bad rep, Yes Im the one who gave it to you, that's the purpose of the red mark, thats why it was made for. I didn't like your postS! now if you dont like my posts and want to give me a bad rep, go ahead? i dont care! this is not my life!! As you've said it's a free country! in this forum everyone is entitled to say what ever they want to say!!
u should reread your posts dear especially the AGE difference topic...Who are you to tell me what to do?Im talkin to mr keith and you butt in!You need to have alife and take ur meds!and dont try to wash your handsWhat you said ..im not pissed off by just the CAPS LOCK THING..
im out,dont wanna waste ma time on pips like you.
Emotional? I can't feel it
You're right! Don't be judgemental! Meet me first di ba?all i can say in this forum, is dont judge ! coz you dont know who you are talking to.
Yup ! Everybody knows this is public and we must not be sensitive and we must be always ready for whatever responses. Even to those nosey members, we must stay calm.Very well said Northerner...And to add to that... Since everybody knows this is a public forum so anything we post here is viewable by anyone in the universe!...lol... so if we post a thread on something we thought is very sensitive but because we need advice or get different opinions from others then we should be ready for whatever responses we will receive from the readers, may it be advantageous or not on our part. Likewise, if we think it is confidential then.... hmmm.... better not post it anymore....
Hope it make sense...
So everybody... CHILL OUT!
umm i havent read such rules...sorry,,and yes ur buggin me,if you dont like me like u said stay away from me and just be happy and move on with ur life..
ICE COFFE or ICED TEA madams?I think you've got a big problem!!
REREAD IT AGAIN!!
If that is noot nice way to say it to you, how do you want me to say it then?
ANd for the bad rep, Yes Im the one who gave it to you, that's the purpose of the red mark, thats why it was made for. I didn't like your postS! now if you dont like my posts and want to give me a bad rep, go ahead? i dont care! this is not my life!! As you've said it's a free country! in this forum everyone is entitled to say what ever they want to say!!
Emotional? I can't feel it
You're right! Don't be judgemental! Meet me first di ba?
Yup ! Everybody knows this is public and we must not be sensitive and we must be always ready for whatever responses. Even to those nosey members, we must stay calm.
ICE COFFE or ICED TEA madams?
i think ladyj needs it more hun...Ive already said ma piece,,,I dnt kno why she has a big prob with me...
umm i havent read such rules...sorry,,and yes ur buggin me,if you dont like me like u said stay away from me and just be happy and move on with ur life..
I think you've got a big problem!!
REREAD IT AGAIN!!
If that is noot nice way to say it to you, how do you want me to say it then?
ANd for the bad rep, Yes Im the one who gave it to you, that's the purpose of the red mark, thats why it was made for. I didn't like your postS! now if you dont like my posts and want to give me a bad rep, go ahead? i dont care! this is not my life!! As you've said it's a free country! in this forum everyone is entitled to say what ever they want to say!!Sorry, ladies ... it's just ME ... I'm being facetious
to take the "heat" out of the situation!
Emotional? I can't feel it
You're right! Don't be judgemental! Meet me first di ba?
Yup ! Everybody knows this is public and we must not be sensitive and we must be always ready for whatever responses. Even to those nosey members, we must stay calm.
ICE COFFE or ICED TEA madams?
hey Penny!i love what u said...Do you love me because I am beautiful, or am I beautiful because you love me?
hehe nice
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