Originally Posted by Matt7
http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php?t=18341
I think these threads are somewhat preaching to the choir, we're all adults and most of us know how to handle ourselves.
Obviously bystander seemed intent on stirring up arguments and he's a one off, but I'd be disappointed if threads like these led to simply outspoken members like myself being "reigned in" so to speak. There's two sides to every coin, and whilst bystander did overstep the boundaries of decency and deserved what he got, some people are all too keen to see people with strong opinions banished. I guess its to Win2Wins credit that he allows any kinds of opinion, within reason, as it makes this forum much more interesting than one big "love in"
Hi Matt while im sure most on here are adults by legal defintion i do think particularly on this forum many are not used to Internet forums, text speak etc. So many do need pointers and also reassurance that the majority on here dont agree with "having a go at others"
Its like if your in a pub and the Landlord/bouncers who can only act when it gets to a certain level of rowdiness by booting them out and a queit word in the shell like is not having an effect. Often peer pressure I.e half the pub saying will you calm down or leave is far more effective.
I'm sure if you compared this site to many it has a quite high percentage of users who are not normally those who untill recently communicated by Internet,text etc. You only have to see how some people set out their Posts at least at first in a tradtional letter style for example to see.
Other people dont seem to realise the writing they have just put down is not a note pin up on a notice board or stuck on afridge only seen by a handful, but in theory the entire world can read. Also like with emails sometimes its best to read them out to someone else or print them out before pressing the send button.
Im sure Mr admin po Boss Lord of a little hill in Wales, has no problem with people being outspoken and taking a differing view to him and the mods. Otherwise I would have disapeared years ago.
I dont think anyone on here simply wants a Love in, but many on here seek support, help in desperate situations. Often in a highly charged emotional situation due to LDR's, struggles with public bodies, the dread of Visa and other decisions being dealt by goverment offcials, homesickness.
I simply dont see that on the other forums I frequent, on some nearly all the members know one another (football) While on here at least at first the huge majority dont and many have little in common socially.
Now I have not read any of the recent "Issue" threads as been away from the interweb hard at work. So may have as normal the wrong end of the stick.
While a raging arguement say about who is the best striker for saturday's game may get a little charged or if people have a ongoing side row during the
thread it simply doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things.
If that happens in posts where the advice sort is for life changing events like applying for visas, getting your children to the UK or involving complex emotional issues. Someone getting a really dumb reply or being insulted could really hurt and confuse an indivudal.
