case for divorce?

[gWaPito]

My thoughts are with her state of mind, never mind about the dam visa! She tried to commit suicide.
she must be at her wits end..is it really worth hanging on in there with a wife beater? I think not..once a wife beater, always a wife beater.
Yes, there are two sides to every coin but, no woman deserves to be beaten what ever the provocation.
Surely life can't be that bad for her in the Phil, so bad that she would rather stay here and be treated like a miss treated dog, I think not! she should go home, the gossips will soon find something else to gossip about.

[Bluebirdjones]

... this is exactly my point.

It seems that the desire for a Visa, the desire for that all-important National Insurance number
outweighs all other concerns.

The whole thread is about "if he does this... can I get my visa", or "if this happens ... what
about my visa"

Whereas it should be about, "My life and health is at threat. How do I end this nightmare. Who
should I complain to, what evidence do I need to provide to the police, how do I get home to
my family".

There is more to this methinks

[pumpkins]

... this is exactly my point.

It seems that the desire for a Visa, the desire for that all-important National Insurance number
outweighs all other concerns.

The whole thread is about "if he does this... can I get my visa", or "if this happens ... what
about my visa"

Whereas it should be about, "My life and health is at threat. How do I end this nightmare. Who
should I complain to, what evidence do I need to provide to the police, how do I get home to
my family".

There is more to this methinks

you have a point bluebirdjones

[eleazebonares]

U guys,maybe its her family who wants her to stay..maybe she needs to spill it out on here so everyone will be enlightened. I mean,i dont blame here if she wants to escape poverty.who could??

[gWaPito]

... this is exactly my point.

It seems that the desire for a Visa, the desire for that all-important National Insurance number
outweighs all other concerns.

The whole thread is about "if he does this... can I get my visa", or "if this happens ... what
about my visa"

Whereas it should be about, "My life and health is at threat. How do I end this nightmare. Who
should I complain to, what evidence do I need to provide to the police, how do I get home to
my family".

There is more to this methinks

Yes, I think you are right bluebirdJones...after reading the header again, something is missing..I guess we will be like the rest..watching this space. I know for sure, the visa wouldn't be the the uppermost in my mind if I'd try to do myself away.
It may be us misunderstanding and it's the 'friend' trying to get her to stay.

Thanks for the reply BluebirdJones

[Terrielicious]

'friend'

Please see line one of the first post

[Tawi2]

How old are the couple Terri The guy must be clocking on judging by the number of divorces he has racked up?Unless he is into speed relationships?A bit like speed dating but more meaningful(for a short while anyway)

[joebloggs]

i take it she didn't contact the police, doctor or social services ? if not i doubt she will get ilr becuase of domestic violence.

maybe she could still get flr, depends if her husband contacts immigration and tells them their marriage is over, but even if he did, maybe her app is already processed, or maybe they will not do anything yet. but i think becuase their marriage is over they could revoke her flr and tell her to leave the uk, even if she did get flr and is not told to leave, she cant get ilr as her marriage is over.

options for staying here, not much chance at all

[Terrielicious]

i take it she didn't contact the police, doctor or social services ? if not i doubt she will get ilr becuase of domestic violence.

maybe she could still get flr, depends if her husband contacts immigration and tells them their marriage is over, but even if he did, maybe her app is already processed, or maybe they will not do anything yet. but i think becuase their marriage is over they could revoke her flr and tell her to leave the uk, even if she did get flr and is not told to leave, she cant get ilr as her marriage is over.

options for staying here, not much chance at all

Unfortunately she didnt contact any of the authorities.

Her husband says he will give the passport back to my friend once it is processed and sent back.
She will try to phone the UKBA to see if we will be able to just pick up the documents?

[gWaPito]

How old are the couple Terri The guy must be clocking on judging by the number of divorces he has racked up?Unless he is into speed relationships?A bit like speed dating but more meaningful(for a short while anyway)

Don't knock it until you tried it

[Tawi2]

Don't knock it until you tried it

I would never knock speed dating,I wouldnt participate either however
Your right Soph,he might just like wedding ceremonies or wedding cake At least he has the decency to get divorced between "Relationships" otherwise he could add bigamist to his list of sins

[Sophie]

How old are the couple Terri The guy must be clocking on judging by the number of divorces he has racked up?Unless he is into speed relationships?A bit like speed dating but more meaningful(for a short while anyway)

or he may be into serial marriage, lol.....

[IainBusby]

... this is exactly my point.

It seems that the desire for a Visa, the desire for that all-important National Insurance number
outweighs all other concerns.

The whole thread is about "if he does this... can I get my visa", or "if this happens ... what
about my visa"

Whereas it should be about, "My life and health is at threat. How do I end this nightmare. Who
should I complain to, what evidence do I need to provide to the police, how do I get home to
my family".

There is more to this methinks

Precisely, I would have thought that if everything was as bad as she has said, the sort of thing she would asking would be, "how can I get some help to get back home to my family".
Iain.

[pumpkins]

hi terrielicious, where is the girl now.. ?you said she will stay with you..is she there with you now?

[Terrielicious]

hi terrielicious, where is the girl now.. ?you said she will stay with you..is she there with you now?

Yes she is with me now she arrived yesterday afternoon and we picked her up from the Bus Station. She is beside me reading here in the forum and she wanna join as well here but at the moment we dont have a good connection we just use the plug in internet.

She still texting with her husband and the husband seems to blamed her from leaving it seems strange cos he is now texting like it was my friend fault that she left him and that she is a bad wife leaving her husband alone? hmmm dont understand him at all now.

She will go home to the philippines now but she gonna have to wait for her passport to turn up her husband says he will give her passport back once its been returned.

I really hope that my friend wont go back with him she still keep replying to his text anyway.

[joebloggs]

i think your friend has virtually no chance of getting ILR in 2yrs time thru marriage, even if she does get FLR very soon.(possible if she goes back to him .. )

if she wants to stay, she needs to find another way..

[WillsG25]

My thoughts are with her state of mind, never mind about the dam visa! She tried to commit suicide.
she must be at her wits end..is it really worth hanging on in there with a wife beater? I think not..once a wife beater, always a wife beater.
Yes, there are two sides to every coin but, no woman deserves to be beaten what ever the provocation.
Surely life can't be that bad for her in the Phil, so bad that she would rather stay here and be treated like a miss treated dog, I think not! she should go home, the gossips will soon find something else to gossip about.

Very true, no woman should put up with any form of violence from their partner, in fact this fella ain't really a man, no matter what has caused the disagreements there is no reason to raise the hand to a woman. What is it with some people picking up girls on the internet and then marrying them without really knowing each other, why not check the water level before jumping in.