thanks guys for all the kind words and its reassuring to know that we are not the only ones to be caught out by this stupid law.

I have told Grace all she needs to know and all she needs to have, thanks to this site only! And like some have said she would have been at the airport in 5 hours time excited about coming home only for somebody to tell her she needs to be told what its like to live with an englishman. well we have lived together for 3 years and we don't need anybody to tell us what a mixed relationship is like as we are more than happy thank you very much!!

The worst thing about our situation is that we used to live in Dubai and the british embassy there told us we could change Grace's visit visa to a spouse visa once we were settled in the Uk!!

The Thing is I can't get to upset because my wife is lucky as she has here visa and she will be here on Saturday, but I am just sick of people questioning our relationship.