What happens if you say NO?

[scottishbride]

I was just reading over a thread about sending money to the Philippines for the wife's family - http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php?t=18606

and was wondering if anybody had ever said NO to this? Do most/all filipinas expect the husband to provide for the whole famlily back home? And if the husband says he's not prepared to offer that kind of support what are the consequences? Will he lose her respect/loyalty/love???

In our case NO, when I met my husband he clearly said to me that he will only support ME! not my whole family. My Dad is a proud man and he never ask any of us to give them money. But when I was single, I used to send money at home, this is my way to thank them for all the good things they've done to me.