What happens if you say NO?

[scottishbride]

I was just reading over a thread about sending money to the Philippines for the wife's family - http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php?t=18606

and was wondering if anybody had ever said NO to this? Do most/all filipinas expect the husband to provide for the whole famlily back home? And if the husband says he's not prepared to offer that kind of support what are the consequences? Will he lose her respect/loyalty/love???

In our case NO, when I met my husband he clearly said to me that he will only support ME! not my whole family. My Dad is a proud man and he never ask any of us to give them money. But when I was single, I used to send money at home, this is my way to thank them for all the good things they've done to me.

[pumpkins]

i dont understand why a lot of the filipina"s are spoiling their families..girls, dont take advantage of your husband generosity.I for one,am not going to uk to be a OFW of my family..i consider my role as a responsible wife first and foremost..This is part of our Filipino culture and also a deep rooted reason why some westerners are attracted to us in the first place..These girls who abuse their husbands in this way do much damage on the overall outlook on how the west look upon us.if there is a reason to help, it within reason and not by sending such extravagant things.we are really not helping our families instead, we are making them lazy..

[IainBusby]

i dont understand why a lot of the filipina"s are spoiling their families..girls, dont take advantage of your husband generosity.I for one,am not going to uk to be a OFW of my family..i consider my role as a responsible wife first and foremost..This is part of our Filipino culture and also a deep rooted reason why some westerners are attracted to us in the first place..These girls who abuse their husbands in this way do much damage on the overall outlook on how the west look upon us.if there is a reason to help, it within reason and not by sending such extravagant things.we are really not helping our families instead, we are making them lazy..

Nice to see a Filipina tell it like it is....... or how it's supposed to be at least.