What happens if you say NO?

[IainBusby]

I was just reading over a thread about sending money to the Philippines for the wife's family - http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php?t=18606

and was wondering if anybody had ever said NO to this? Do most/all filipinas expect the husband to provide for the whole famlily back home? And if the husband says he's not prepared to offer that kind of support what are the consequences? Will he lose her respect/loyalty/love???

I have frequently said no and this sort of thing does tend to cause a lot of conflict and tampos in a relationship. You will probably find that unless you agree some guidelines with your wife (this is better done before she comes to the UK, or better still before you get married) and draw a line in the sand so to speak, the requests will start to come thick and fast and the amounts asked for will tend to increase as well.

Iain.

[aposhark]

I have frequently said no and this sort of thing does tend to cause a lot of conflict and tampos in a relationship. You will probably find that unless you agree some guidelines with your wife (this is better done before she comes to the UK, or better still before you get married) and draw a line in the sand so to speak, the requests will start to come thick and fast and the amounts asked for will tend to increase as well.

Iain.

Well said Iain,

I had to draw a line in the sand last week too.
I just wish the families of our wives/fiancees could see the bills we have to pay here in the UK.
The exchange rate (at times) makes us look a bit like wealthy people to families over there, and granted perhaps we are in comparison, but we are all trying to keep our heads above water in the UK.
Maybe this is a bad comparison with the floods in Manila at the moment