What happens if you say NO?

[JimOttley]

If he loses her love for saying "No" it was never love in the first place,but what I am about to say is fact,anyone can dispute it if they like BUT...There are pinays here in this country who didnt marry their respective hubbies for love,but rather to escape poverty in pinas and work abroad with the sole intention of sending cash back to pinas,thats fact,I heard of a pinay and her pinoy husband who hatched a plot,its an extreme but true example,the lady met an old italian guy online with the agreement of her pinoy husband,she had her philippine marriage annuled,now lives in Italy with the old italian guy,works and sends cash back to her husband and kids,sounds Bizzare?Theres nowt as queer as folks

I know a couple in the Phils, the husband runs a contract car from Mall of Asia taxi stand, every so often he disappears for a while when his wifes Japanese boyfriend comes over to stay.

They have milked this guy for years, I hasten to add that these people are not friends but they are known to our family from long ago.

I was a bit upset after I found out the history, as we had entertained these people in our flat a few years ago and also got roped into using their taxi service a couple of times, Ana finds it hard to say NO.

I'm getting better at saying NO and for the last year or so the requests from the more remote relatives have dried up.

I don't mind helping immediate family but even there we can't really afford it any more.


Jim

[Tawi2]

Pimping his own wife Lots of things happen under the surface over there that defy the imagination

[IainBusby]

I'm getting better at saying NO and for the last year or so the requests from the more remote relatives have dried up.

I don't mind helping immediate family but even there we can't really afford it any more.

Jim

Requests from the extended family never even got off the starting blocks with me, I made it clear from the start that I would consider requests from immediate family only. I think this is absolutely necessary, as in most cases, when it comes to Filipino families, the extended family can be quite vast compared to your average British extended family. In my own case, my wife's mum and dad have 20 siblings between them. I've met so many cousins on the occasions that I've been to Phils and I get the impression that I've only just scratched the surface on that score.

I'm pretty sure that we are supporting the extended family to a certain extent and that some of the requests and remittances get shared around sometimes.

Iain.

[JimOttley]

I'm pretty sure that we are supporting the extended family to a certain extent and that some of the requests and remittances get shared around sometimes.

Iain.

That's almost a given there will always be times when a request comes in that seems a little fishy, I know for fact it got shared around in the past, everyone helps everyone and all that. But a surprisingly large number nowadays take and don't pass on or don't "turn back" as Ana says, when times are better for them.


Jim