What happens if you say NO?

[IainBusby]

I'm getting better at saying NO and for the last year or so the requests from the more remote relatives have dried up.

I don't mind helping immediate family but even there we can't really afford it any more.

Jim

Requests from the extended family never even got off the starting blocks with me, I made it clear from the start that I would consider requests from immediate family only. I think this is absolutely necessary, as in most cases, when it comes to Filipino families, the extended family can be quite vast compared to your average British extended family. In my own case, my wife's mum and dad have 20 siblings between them. I've met so many cousins on the occasions that I've been to Phils and I get the impression that I've only just scratched the surface on that score.

I'm pretty sure that we are supporting the extended family to a certain extent and that some of the requests and remittances get shared around sometimes.

Iain.

[JimOttley]

I'm pretty sure that we are supporting the extended family to a certain extent and that some of the requests and remittances get shared around sometimes.

Iain.

That's almost a given there will always be times when a request comes in that seems a little fishy, I know for fact it got shared around in the past, everyone helps everyone and all that. But a surprisingly large number nowadays take and don't pass on or don't "turn back" as Ana says, when times are better for them.


Jim