What happens if you say NO?

[tiN]

I was just reading over a thread about sending money to the Philippines for the wife's family - http://filipinaroses.com/showthread.php?t=18606

and was wondering if anybody had ever said NO to this? Do most/all filipinas expect the husband to provide for the whole famlily back home? And if the husband says he's not prepared to offer that kind of support what are the consequences? Will he lose her respect/loyalty/love???

I understand your concern about helping the family in the Philippines.

In my view, helping is not an obligation. You're helping because you wanted to help.

In each family there is a different situation. In my family, I dont obligate my self to send money/gifts or help them. I send it because i am happy to do it as long as i know how to control it, As i know how hard it is to work/make money.

And speak to your wife/partner how you feel about it, as someone says "money is really sensitive issue"

[lizaphil]

I understand your concern about helping the family in the Philippines.

In my view, helping is not an obligation. You're helping because you wanted to help.

In each family there is a different situation. In my family, I dont obligate my self to send money/gifts or help them. I send it because i am happy to do it as long as i know how to control it, As i know how hard it is to work/make money.

And speak to your wife/partner how you feel about it, as someone says "money is really sensitive issue"

[jaishann]

And speak to your wife/partner how you feel about it, as someone says "money is really sensitive issue"

yes it is sensitive and can cause trouble either between the husband and the fil wife or the fil's family.