Quote Originally Posted by tuft249 View Post
i think everyone wants to beleive their not being scammed even if they are.i just put advert on jade rose pen-pals 6months later i was asking advice on here for trip to phils. my girl has always asked for money but admitted its because her friend had a foreign all the requests for money were genuine. her sis & friends want me to find foreign for them also.it may not be a politically correct think to say but would any filipina want a foreign if it wasnt for money a better life,course they wouldnt.
There are ladies on here who are supporting their UK husbands in financial terms, so that theory just does not work in my view.

For those girls where it's the other way round, if you lived in poverty all your life, worked as a street vendor morning and night to pay yourself through school, then maybe you might be looking for a nice husband, a Prince Charming to come and rescue you and make things easier.

You could get lucky and find a good Filipino husband who would go out and work hard for 300 peso a day and you could try to dig yourself out of the poverty you've spent your entire life in.

But a lot of these girls have grown up having had to go out scavenging to earn a pittance while watching her mother slave away year after year trying to support the family, while father has been in and out of work time and time again.

I don't believe they wan't a foreign husband at all costs, like everyone else they want to marry for love, for mutual respect, for mutual support and for mutual security, trying to find a foreign husband is pragmatism but they are still trying to find the "nice" guy not just the first "rich" one that comes along.

Plus there are plenty of women in the UK who would marry for money and a better life at the drop of a hat and probably with a lot more cynicism, there will be girls in the Phils that are doing the same but at least they have a fundamental justification for it.


Jim