Age Difference... When Is Too Much Just Too Much..??

[Ayjay]

I noticed on the "Introduce Yourself" thread yet another young 20 year old female student hooking up with a 47 year old boyfriend... 27 year age gap...

In my opinion this is out of line, and the guy should get a grip and look for someone in his own age bracket.. indeed in this case his own generation..

When is too much just too much....?? Surely this is..??

AJ

[Tawi2]

This should be interesting

[aromulus]

How many of this kind of discussions have we had by now...?

If only people would bother using the search facility....The answers will be there....

That can of worms could also be included in the "Filipino hotdog" thread....

[pumpkins]

I noticed on the "Introduce Yourself" thread yet another young 20 year old female student hooking up with a 47 year old boyfriend... 27 year age gap...

In my opinion this is out of line, and the guy should get a grip and look for someone in his own age bracket.. indeed in this case his own generation..

When is too much just too much....?? Surely this is..??

AJ

hi ayjay.. for me i cannot see something wrong with the 27 years gap of 20 years old woman and 47 years old man..coz the man age of 47 is still fit for 20 years old woman.. if the man age of 60 and the woman is 33- that still 27 years gap but this i can say "out of line"- i hope you get my point.

[Ayjay]

How many of this kind of discussions have we had by now...?

If only people would bother using the search facility....The answers will be there....

That can of worms could also be included in the "Filipino hotdog" thread....

Let me declare my interest... I am 55 married to a Filipina who is 48. Personally, I would consider this to be on boundary of an acceptable age difference..

AJ

[Tawi2]

I did meet an American who was 70+ in Manila with his "Fiancee" who if memory serves correctly was roughly around 20 years old That guy didnt come across as a particularly nice character

[Ayjay]

hi ayjay.. for me i cannot see something wrong with the 27 years gap of 20 years old woman and 47 years old man..coz the man age of 47 is still fit for 20 years old woman.. if the man age of 60 and the woman is 33- that still 27 years gap but this i can say "out of line"- i hope you get my point.

Hi Pumpkins,

I would tend to agree with you. It depends of course on the state of preservation of the 40 year old guy.. However, as the years roll by the situation becomes quite grotesque..

AJ

[aromulus]

Let me declare my interest... I am 55 married to a Filipina who is 48. Personally, I would consider this to be on boundary of an acceptable age difference..

AJ

So....

I am 58, my delectable wife is 39.... Am I to think that in your view this is not acceptable....?

[tuft249]

there is eleven years between me @ heide. and she admit to me she contacted men alot older than me non reply me the only one .they could be happy maybe you shouldnt judge but it is alot of years.but the relationship could work better than of similar age couples. they are both adults

[Ayjay]

So....

I am 58, my delectable wife is 39.... Am I to think that in your view this is not acceptable....?

I have stated my opinion only. Others may disagree..

AJ

[Pepe n Pilar]

As the saying goes "AGE DOESN'T MATTER"... Some doesn't mind at all of their age differences as long as they say love binds so strongly( i agree). In my opinion, if the age gap is say 27 yrs (as this is the topic) the social standing is considered and if they are of the same category then people won't bother to talk about it anymore but, if the social standing is somewhat different then it is always being talked about and/or being asked, this is normal. Perhaps some of the filipinos here know the filipino lady named Lisa Macuja she is a ballerina and she was in her 30's(30-32) (correct me if i'm wrong) when she married Mr Elizalde age 51 or somewhat in his 50's which is her father's friend. Some filipino ladies named Charo Santos and Loren Legarda as well has married a much older men. They also has a great age gap. That age difference is not a big deal for they both belong to the same social group. Just my views.

[aromulus]

I have stated my opinion..

AJ

Yes you did that.....

[aromulus]

I have stated my opinion only. Others may disagree..

AJ

On the other hand, as opposed to us blokes being labelled cradle snatchers, why aren't the young ladies labelled grave robbers...???

[Ayjay]

As the saying goes "AGE DOESN'T MATTER"... Some doesn't mind at all of their age differences as long as they say love binds so strongly. In my opinion, if the age gap is say 27 yrs (as this is the topic) the social standing is considered and if they are of the same category then people won't bother to talk about it anymore but, if the social standing is somewhat different then it is always being talked about. Perhaps some of the filipinos here know the filipino lady named Lisa Macuja she is a ballerina and she was in her 30's(30-32) (correct me if i'm wrong) when she married her husband age 51 or somewhat in his 50's which is her father's friend. Some filipino ladies named Charo Santos and Loren Legarda as well has married a much older men. They also has a great age gap. That age difference is not a big deal for they both belong to the same social group. Just my views.

Hi Pepe..

I think you have hit the nail on the head when you consider social groupings. How many times do we see young women married to or hanging around much older male actors for example. The same applies to older women actors etc with young husband or toy boy companions.

Here in the UK for example, a 27 year age gap in normal social circles would be very out of place and be frowned upon. Such mismatches reinforce the stereotype of Asian women as being in it for the money only.

I know its a wrong perception, demonstrating an ignorance of the individuals circumstances, and cultural issues.

However, perceptions are what endure..

AJ

[KeithD]

Let me declare my interest... I am 55 married to a Filipina who is 48. Personally, I would consider this to be on boundary of an acceptable age difference..

AJ

So we all must abide by your boundary as that is obviously the correct one!

I'm not sure you live in the real world, throughout my life I've known a lot of English-English relationships with huge age differences.

These are the English stats:

[Tawi2]

On the other hand, as opposed to us blokes being labelled cradle snatchers, why aren't the young ladies labelled grave robbers...???

They are actually in Pinas,hence the 4 M's listen to any pinays chismising about a young pinay marrying an old puti,it always crops up,matandang mayaman madaling mamatay.
Age doesnt matter?Well,I know a pinay in her late 30's who was the girlfriend of an american in his 70's,I actually introduced her to an old pinoy also in his 70's and asked her would she consider him as a boyfriend,she said no way,he is too old I feel more comfortable with someone my own age,I am the right side of 45 but wouldnt feel right going shopping with a 20+ year age gap kid,everyones different I suppose.

[Ayjay]

So we all must abide by your boundary as that is obviously the correct one!

Actually, I did not say that.... What I expressed was my opinion only..

AJ

[adam&chryss]

I noticed on the "Introduce Yourself" thread yet another young 20 year old female student hooking up with a 47 year old boyfriend... 27 year age gap...

In my opinion this is out of line, and the guy should get a grip and look for someone in his own age bracket.. indeed in this case his own generation..

When is too much just too much....?? Surely this is..??

AJ

when it comes to love there's no too much.

i believe. when you are meant to be, there's no age difference. i'm 10 yrs. younger than my hubby.
i have a cousin who is more than 30 yrs. younger than her hubby... they are happy and definitely inlove.

let's say if your wife is more than 20 yrs. younger than you, you think you wouldn't marry her?

looking back, i can't still believe that i'm married now with the guy i truly love. if it happens that he is more than 20 yrs. older than me, i will still marry him bec. we are destined to each other

let's just hope and pray that the couple you are talking about are inlove and let's be happy for them that finally they found each other


cheers!

[Pepe n Pilar]

Hi Pepe..

I think you have hit the nail on the head when you consider social groupings. How many times do we see young women married to or hanging around much older male actors for example. The same applies to older women actors etc with young husband or toy boy companions.

Here in the UK for example, a 27 year age gap in normal social circles would be very out of place and be frowned upon. Such mismatches reinforce the stereotype of Asian women as being in it for the money only.

I know its a wrong perception, demonstrating an ignorance of the individuals circumstances, and cultural issues.

However, perceptions are what endure..

AJ

I know what you mean. I can digest it very well. I watched the program UK Border Force, there was one segment there that a Wales woman aged 60 was interviewed before the visa was issued because her Indian bf is aged 30. He can't speak English and has to ask for an interpreter. The Immigration officer was in doubt if it is really love that binds the two or was it something else? That is not to be judged but of course it is normal that there is another reason.

So the normal perception is.... an old woman with a young bloke = a toy boy
a young woman with an old bloke = security

Although love exists....... whatever reasons they may have they should not be judged.

Cheers!

[Tawi2]

Very wise words P&P,your a student of human behaviour and quite observant

[adam&chryss]

I know what you mean. I can digest it very well. I watched the program UK Border Force, there was one segment there that a Wales woman aged 60 was interviewed before the visa was issued because her Indian bf is aged 30. He can't speak English and has to ask for an interpreter. The Immigration officer was in doubt if it is really love that binds the two or was it something else? That is not to be judged but of course it is normal that there is another reason.

So the normal perception is an old woman with a young bloke = a toy boy
a young woman with an old bloke = security
Although love exists....... whatever reasons they may have they should not be judged.

[Ayjay]

let's say if your wife is more than 20 yrs. younger than you, you think you wouldn't marry her?

Hi Guys..

I would seriously examine my motives..

AJ

[Ayjay]

So the normal perception is.... an old woman with a young bloke = a toy boy
a young woman with an old bloke = security

Although love exists....... whatever reasons they may have they should not be judged.

Cheers!

Hi Pepe...

Thanks for the cool reply. As I mentioned its perceptions that trigger social responses..

AJ

[triple5]

I've come across these kinds of discussions before, and usually find that those who have such a problem with age gaps are normally snobs who have nothing better to do than gossip. Bit of a cliche but age is just a number. I've been in a relationship with a lady many years older than myself, and am now courting a girl 15 years younger. It's what works for both parties at the time.

You don't choose who you fall for, but obviously a lot of these Phil/foreign big age gap relationships are born out of desperation rather than love.

[Ayjay]

It's what works for both parties at the time.

You don't choose who you fall for, but obviously a lot of these Phil/foreign big age gap relationships are born out of desperation rather than love.

Indeed some people treat such liaisons as throw away relationships.. which is very sad.

Your second comment I totally agree with..

AJ

[Pepe n Pilar]

Very wise words P&P,your a student of human behaviour and quite observant

Thanks Tawi2... yes i am very observant..

Hi Pepe...

Thanks for the cool reply. As I mentioned its perceptions that trigger social responses..

AJ

You're welcome Ayjay.... Yes it is the general perception that upsets people....Although we give reasons.... this and that... it is the peoples' perception and we can't tell everyone and force them to believe... Each one has its own views on everything....

[triple5]

Love your sig AJ. Are you putting yourself up for sale?

[gWaPito]

I noticed on the "Introduce Yourself" thread yet another young 20 year old female student hooking up with a 47 year old boyfriend... 27 year age gap...

In my opinion this is out of line, and the guy should get a grip and look for someone in his own age bracket.. indeed in this case his own generation..

When is too much just too much....?? Surely this is..??

AJ

Good old western stereotyping at it's best. I didn't think I would find it on here though!

God bless you all

[Ayjay]

Good old western stereotyping at it's best.
God bless you all

Not really, just recognising that many of these generation gap relationships are driven by desperation...

AJ

[Sophie]

I noticed on the "Introduce Yourself" thread yet another young 20 year old female student hooking up with a 47 year old boyfriend... 27 year age gap...

In my opinion this is out of line, and the guy should get a grip and look for someone in his own age bracket.. indeed in this case his own generation..

When is too much just too much....?? Surely this is..??

AJ

Personally, i feel no one is in the position to question or judge people about their relationship preferences in particular about the age thing......
To each his own and whatever works for others, so be it.....we are all entitled to our own individual choices.....