I may well be delusional in your eyes, but I happen to know one particular couple that using the word "desperate" would be to put it mildly.
They recently had their 22nd anniversary and they have 3 kids, 20, 16, 11.
When they married she was 21, and he was 54 year old divorced welsh farmer, and she didn't hide the fact that she wanted a passport, as she was a refugee from Uganda.
But enough of that.
You have your opinions and I respect it.