Quote Originally Posted by Tawi2 View Post
As we both know jim,some pinoy fathers(note,I said some)reactions would indeed be "Kerching" its more socially acceptable over there,thats just how it is,and part of that root-cause is poverty,anyone can dress it up in fancy-clothes but poverty causes people to do things out of character,someone once asked me "Do you think its every young pinay girls dream to marry a middle-aged westerner"?It was a pinay who asked the question,it was rhetorical
Ageed Tawi, but I was talking about me - right now!!! and part of that would be driven by difficult financial circumstances right now!!!

Your question reminded me a little of the circumstances of the conversation between "Bob" and her father in Blackadder III

Anyway my comment was tongue in cheek but I have had serious conversations with my Scottish daughter (who has not yet met her new wee sister) where she has seriously commented about how she wants to be successful to be able to help her mum and to help me her dad as well as we get older

I made it quite clear to her that the parenting thing was a one way transaction and that I uphold the western view that my kids owe me nothing. I expect them to make their way in life and my payment is seeing their success and happiness nothing more, I am not looking to be a burden to my children when I get old.

Interestingly my daughter commented recently about her mum who lives on her own in Orkney and made it clear to me that she worried more about her mum right now, especially for the future, she was less concerned about me, even though I am living on my own too, this was because I have Ana, James and Janna.

So Dad was ok because he had someone in his life even though that someone was still far away.

I love my daughter dearly and I am incredibly proud of her she recently gained her Masters degree and has landed a very good job which she started 3 weeks ago. I was never married to her mum but we are still friends 25 years later.

My wee girl has had to confront the questions of large age gaps raised in this thread, in the case of Ana and me a gap of 14 years, and she has coped with this admirably in my opinion!

She has met Ana by the way.


Jim