Quote Originally Posted by Ayjay View Post
Hi Tawi,

You touch upon an interesting transitional concept that pervades most of these age chasm and inter generational marriages. And that is the possibility of the relationship progressing from the initial desperation phase, into a longer term dependency phase, both of which are devoid of genuine romantic notions.

AJ
How many people get to go through life without experiencing at some point desperation and or dependency in their relationships ?

When your wife has just given birth she is going to be pretty dependant on you possibly for the next 5 or 6 years at least, dependency is a fundamental part of the whole reason we get involved with each other in the first place!!!

When you have just lost your job your partner is going to feel pretty desperate as are you.

Finding a partner is a specific answer to a particular type of desperation and it's not confined to long distance inter cultural relationships.

None of the above excludes love or romance.

Love, desperation, romance, dependency are part of every relationship!

I'm not saying that cynical relationships do not exist just that it is not fair to assume that the majority of relationships with generational gaps are cynical.


Jim