Hi SC,
Welcome to the forum.
Unfortunately these things do happen, finding it hard to adjust, we whinge we moan and we complain but that is just normal. There is nothing wrong with you to ask for a psychologist you are just going thru change. Trust me you are not alone on this. You just have to accept things as they are.
With regards to your husband, you have to speak your mind dear. He can't read your mind. Ask and you shall receive, you have to be assertive sometimes. At the moment yes you are financially dependent to him but as soon as you find a job things will be easier for you.
Relationship tends not to work because we love someone hoping that they will change for us but sadly it doesn't work that way. Based from your post you have things in common, why don't you work out on those things that u both got in common and take it from there.
Chin up! Things will get easier (I hope) .
