Some great advice on her, but don't just think you have to settle for accepting this life. You make the life what it is, and get out there and do as has been suggested a bit of charity work or something.
If it really isn't working between you, and you have taken all the steps to tell your husband how you feel then you do have options, sometimes it needs you to talk to a counsillor or similar, or sometimes when you've tried very very hard you have to make a difficult decision. But you must think carefully about what you want, and how you can achieve that, and what your husband wants.
