As much as I’m sad to hear of the demise of this relationship (and let’s be honest, it’s over, it’s dead, it’s finished…. there is no way back for either party), it also highlights the fact(s) many have alluded to on this site….
… namely ….
The greater the age difference, the greater the difficulties in adapting to each others’ needs and desires
The greater the baggage…. the greater the chances of an unsuccessful relationship.
These are facts, not thoughts or theories …. FACTS.
It’s difficult enough conducting a long-distance relationship, let alone with these factors also involved.
The fact that you cannot meet/see each other on a regular basis for lunch, dinner, the cinema, the pub, walks, etc etc means that one has to rely on cams & messenger chats….. not ideal.
The 1 – 2 visits (in most cases) to the Philippines cannot present the full picture…. merely a snapshot.
And many feel that once they have met in the “flesh”, in person, they then feel obliged to move forward to the inevitable conclusion.
So make it easier for yourself ! Just because the potential bride / bridegroom “scrubs up” well, and has a pleasing personality on messenger, it is not the be-all and end-all.
Be more selective in the first instance on who you talk to, strike up a relationship with….. be aware of each other’s lives / traits/ “baggage”…… be aware of the problems that are likely (and will) to occur.
And be honest with each other, and more importantly yourself, and be prepared to say ….”I’m sorry, this in not what I want”.
Then, and only then, will the chances of both parties living together in a happy, long-term relationship be fulfilled.
Once again…. Mick, sorry to hear of the situation you find yourself in.
