I geel guilty.....

[Sophie]

I have been married to my husband for 9 years now, i know that he loves me and my son so much. But lately I have been feeling so depressed about our life here in the UK. After having been here for 17 yrs now I feel like I am ready to go back home. Our 9 yrs has been so full of trials, we have been trying to have a baby but i keep on losing them. Last year my consultant told me I should have a hysterectomy to lessen the pain and to kill any chances of the cancer returning. I did have the op and now I am on menopause aged 38. I spoke to hubby about what I feel, and he told me that if I do decide to go back home he will visit me twice a year. part of me wants to go, but i do not want to leave hubby behind :(.... i am so depressed with winter coming up... what do you guys think i should do help...

Hello maria, i'm sorry about the way you're feeling now, my advise is probably to go back home for a long vacation
instead of moving there for good..........you probably just need a break and change of atmosphere at the moment
and be with your family back home and enjoy their company for a while.....
from there, you can decide if you want to come back here or stay in the philippines for good....
You'll never know, maybe after your long vacation in pinas, you will be wanting to come back and miss uk so much already
but if you decide to stay in pinas, its inevitable for you to feel a bit torned and somewhat guilty for not being here with your hubby
but atleast your husband is so supportive about your plan of moving back home and so gracious about it and even willing to visit you twice a year....

[maria_and_matt]

Hello maria, i'm sorry about the way you're feeling now, my advise is probably to go back home for a long vacation
instead of moving there for good..........you probably just need a break and change of atmosphere at the moment
and be with your family back home and enjoy their company for a while.....
from there, you can decide if you want to come back here or stay in the philippines for good....
You'll never know, maybe after your long vacation in pinas, you will be wanting to come back and miss uk so much already
but if you decide to stay in pinas, its inevitable for you to feel a bit torned and somewhat guilty for not being here with your hubby
but atleast your husband is so supportive about your plan of moving back home and so gracious about it and even willing to visit you twice a year....

hi sophie .... i think deep down i want us to all move back home, but that is not possible right now as my husband has an elderly uncle here. I wonder if you ever feel like this? maybe i am just messed up at the moment, my friends told me that girls would almost give anything for a life here in the UK while i am ready to just give it all away? i am so confused

[Sophie]

hi sophie .... i think deep down i want us to all move back home, but that is not possible right now as my husband has an elderly uncle here. I wonder if you ever feel like this? maybe i am just messed up at the moment, my friends told me that girls would almost give anything for a life here in the UK while i am ready to just give it all away? i am so confused

I can understand how you're feeling confused and torned about the whole thing maria....
Part of you want so much to move back home but you will have to make a sacrifice - leaving your husband behind since his elderly uncle needs him here....
But if you feel that going back home is what you really need and this move will make you feel better and happier, then go for it...
You've been here 17 years already, so its quite understandable how you miss pinas already, having all your friends and relatives around...
Most of us filipinas, if not all, would do thesame thing, as there's really no place like home.....
Me and hubby are considering the idea of retiring back home eventually....
But for now, i'm still enjoying exploring the country as i've only been here 7 months.....
and i'm still looking forward to exploring europe later on, since i love to travel....
But retiring and moving back home is definitely something i will consider in the future.....
Cheer up, just go for what will make you happy