i am surprise that your husband is willing to compromise with you by letting you go home and visits you twice a year, how very kind of him. Some people who have a nice life, nice house and may be plenty of money what else they can ask for but I believe we don't need to have everything in this world to be happy and contented. i think some people just make their life too complicated and that's the problem.
hope you overcome the menopausal stage.