Quote Originally Posted by schuey View Post
well i would, its just if i go see her for say a month,and then want to have her visit me in the uk and she cant get a visa,it would cause a lot of pain,so maybe we should stop it before we get too much involved
A visitor visa on her own (which she would have to do if she hasn't met you) is least likely to be successful (and a spouse visa is most likely to be successful). If you want your relationship to go anywhere you need to go to see first.

Though I can understand your concerns, and what you I guess you need to consider is can you sponsor her for a settlement visa? To sponsor her for a settlement visa you need accommodation (which you have) and enough spare money each month out of your existing income.