Originally Posted by mickcant
Hi all, thank you for your thoughts and concern.
I have wanted to write but was a little worried at the same time as I seem to be going against much of the advice given me.
When I asked Jennifer if she would sign the divorce papers, for a divorce without using a solicitor, she said she did not want to divorce but wanted to return and make our marriage work!
So I decided to follow my heart and try, at least we would then know for sure, I would always have wondered “what if”.
Jennifer returned here December the 19th and all has been ok so far, we do have things to work through, we were apart 19 months since the marriage apart from the 12 days she was first here.
We are more or less starting again, things are much better so far and hopefully we will get through our problems.
I realise we may have problems with her not being here the full two years required for the visa, but hopefully we can work somthing out by then.
Jennifer has enjoyed our snow over the last two days, and taken pictures to send home.
Mick.Hi Mick,
I'd like to be able to say I'm very happy for you that she has returned and if things do actually work out for the best for you I will be, but I really feel more worried for you than anything. She seemed to show so little concern for you when she walked out on you and returned to the Philippines and at the moment I can only think, rightly or wrongly, that she's only returned because once she got back to Phils, she found the gravy train had already left town.
I could believe that extreme homesickness could sometimes make a woman act in the way she did and everything else being equal I would be the first to give her the benefit of the doubt. Unfortunately I can't get my head around the fact that she was so cold towards you physically and sexually and this has led me to conclude that she doesn't appear to have any genuine affection for you.
I really hope that there are things that I just don't quite understand about your relationship and I hope also that in the long run I'm completely wrong in everything I've said in this post.
Cheers,
Iain.
