yes that's true, going and living with some guy you might have met once in the phils, and then going to live in the UK 6000 miles away for 6 months or moreOriginally Posted by somebody
, but then some people marry a guy they have met only once or twice in the phils
I think darren-b makes a very valid point, with the Fiancee visa route, asking someone to pack up their lives & come & live in a strange Country after marrying is just too much for some.
We opted to marry here in the Philippines. Have been here for 2 months, coming home friday.
We're not rushing into getting a spouse visa, we're going to take our time, if we even do?...Long term, I'm sure we will...Besides, we're rescuing too many cats, from starvation at the moment.
If you can do it the other way around & spend some time living here, then it's a great way to get to know each other properly.
2 months isn't that long, but you can get to know each other quite well in that time & get a feel for living out here too.
Hope to come back here, earlyish in the new year.
Good luck Queenbee, which ever you decide.
I think there are good points on both sides of which visa to go for!
The main thing is to think if you are willing to move to the UK and have a wedding without your family and friends from back home. If you are okay with this then a fiance visa is a good way to go. Does cost really come into it? The visa and wedding is a costly venture regardless of how it is processed (from what I have read)..
From your boyfriends point it is better to get married in the UK as that 6 month period will give a better indication of how your lives will pan out. I am sure those 6 months will be bliss for you as the honeymoon period as they say is still ongoing at that point. But, at least you get to see your future husbands habits up close. I mean, his day to day habits. The way he gets ready for work, the way he cooks.. etc.. And if for some reason at that point you both have a change of heart it is easier to deal with than when those vows have been made..
My own personal thoughts with my Mahal on this matter is that it will allow her to get to know the UK a lot better and make some friends before making the big commitment. I think if she can get through those 6 months and still marry me. Then our marriage would be stronger and the odds would be with us instead of against us. But then we both understand that at times we will have our problems and commitment is not just about the good times!!
Whatever route you take.. Good luck
You're right in everyway SIM11UK...Eventhough ive known ma man for almost 6 years already (but we jst got reunited jst this april) and me love him to bits,we both have to take our time as MARRIAGE is a big thing...Now it's my chance to kno more about him,have a glimpse of his daily livin in tha UK and what would ma life with him be like....Its diff when he visits me here in PINAS for a month eventhough he knows everything about me,my life,family and friends,its still a holiday thing for tha both of us not really in tha real world where he has to work then gets home and stuff like that...Although i truly believe if youre happy with the other one,u enjoy and have fun when ur together especially on a holiday then it wouldnt be that difficult to adjust when you go and live with him for a long time...I think darren-b makes a very valid point, with the Fiancee visa route, asking someone to pack up their lives & come & live in a strange Country after marrying is just too much for some.
We opted to marry here in the Philippines. Have been here for 2 months, coming home friday.
We're not rushing into getting a spouse visa, we're going to take our time, if we even do?...Long term, I'm sure we will...Besides, we're rescuing too many cats, from starvation at the moment.
If you can do it the other way around & spend some time living here, then it's a great way to get to know each other properly.
2 months isn't that long, but you can get to know each other quite well in that time & get a feel for living out here too.
Hope to come back here, earlyish in the new year.
Good luck Queenbee, which ever you decide.
I definitely go for spouse visa bec eventhough i have a child already and ******* 27 yr old,ma parents are still very overprotective of me as im their only daughter...I truly believe in long engagements and living together before marriage..I was engaged to a german guy before my current relationship for 2 years and weve been together for 3 years but still it's not enough to kno yah partner real well...
But guys you never meet yah soulmate 2 times right?Before as not the right time together with him as he's making a name for himself ith his work and i am travelling and doing what i love to do which is music...So i dnt have regrets with my decision before not to get really serious and commit into the relationship,i kno it would'nt work...So yah i think this time is OUR time...Fiance visa or spouse visa,,,But for me spouse visa cz like teh penny said,ma nanay doesnt want me to be taken away from them like that by a foreigner,,lol
definitely right on that mate,im on ma way to him no in just 2 days ,,yay!I kno 3 months and 2 eeks is not enough but its good enough for me.....Hey northerner how's tha PHIL for yah so far??I think there are good points on both sides of which visa to go for!
The main thing is to think if you are willing to move to the UK and have a wedding without your family and friends from back home. If you are okay with this then a fiance visa is a good way to go. Does cost really come into it? The visa and wedding is a costly venture regardless of how it is processed (from what I have read)..
From your boyfriends point it is better to get married in the UK as that 6 month period will give a better indication of how your lives will pan out. I am sure those 6 months will be bliss for you as the honeymoon period as they say is still ongoing at that point. But, at least you get to see your future husbands habits up close. I mean, his day to day habits. The way he gets ready for work, the way he cooks.. etc.. And if for some reason at that point you both have a change of heart it is easier to deal with than when those vows have been made..
My own personal thoughts with my Mahal on this matter is that it will allow her to get to know the UK a lot better and make some friends before making the big commitment. I think if she can get through those 6 months and still marry me. Then our marriage would be stronger and the odds would be with us instead of against us. But then we both understand that at times we will have our problems and commitment is not just about the good times!!
Whatever route you take.. Good luck
I am sure you will love it in the UKdefinitely right on that mate,im on ma way to him no in just 2 days ,,yay!I kno 3 months and 2 eeks is not enough but its good enough for me.....Hey northerner how's tha PHIL for yah so far??
YayI am sure you will love it in the UKHappy for you!Im really excited to be with ma mahal again tooo,,Have him house arrest for a week,,hehehe
Some women agree to marry a guy they have never physically spent time withyes that's true, going and living with some guy you might have met once in the phils, and then going to live in the UK 6000 miles away for 6 months or moreA friend of mine,good friend actually,has just been on her second visitors visa to UK,both times it was to stay with the same guy,no mention from him of marriage,she returned home several weeks ago despondent
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