Hi - I am going through the same thing, and reading all this about the pain of separation brings tears to my eyes. I married in May this year and came back to UK in July after living together for 14 months I have looked into visiting my husband this xms, but we have a daughter so it doubles the price....I have decided to cross fingers, get papers and save my money to go and 'collect' him....if i go now I spend my savings and his visa application money - but I am worried that the savings I can demonstrate are not increasing, I only have about £50 surplus a month due to high cost of needing a full-time job to be able to stay off benefit and the cost of childcare to work full-time...sometimes I think I will just pack in the UK and go back, but then we will all have nothing....
Stay rational!! God knows I'm trying!
