pacificelectric - I'm not sure about the "do it my way or it's over" approach, especially if you don't mean it, even if you did, it's not the way successful marriages work.
Face is important, dates give face. And as already has been said, many many Asian women get messed around SO much by men, it's understandable that when they find a nice genuine guy, they want to grab hold and don't want to let go, they need marriage.
I don't advise an ultimatum, just patience and understanding. As user Florge recenlty said to me, "explain to her that you shouldn't be rushing things... but also assure her of your commitment in your relationship."
