Pressured for a quick marriage...

[bornatbirth]

I get the same, my Ana is constantly asked by friends and relatives why we are not married yet and why do we not have our own house and why do we not have our own car, why do we not have a business in the Philippines, your partner is a westerner how come you don't have happy life, you been with him many years now.

They torture her even some members of the family do that though not immediate family, I really feel for her but it spills over into arguments between us as part of her forgets all her personal issues that we have been fixing over the last five years. Oddly in my case too the family are mostly on my side they know I am doing my best but Ana gets caught up in the "keeping up with the Jones' " snobbery that exists so much in the Phils.

Take your time sir, I think you need a lot longer and a good many more visits to decide, remember that even after you are married the comparisons can keep on coming, the wonders of modern communication

your quite right,unneeded pressure.

pacificelectric - I'm not sure about the "do it my way or it's over" approach, especially if you don't mean it, even if you did, it's not the way successful marriages work.

Face is important, dates give face. And as already has been said, many many Asian women get messed around SO much by men, it's understandable that when they find a nice genuine guy, they want to grab hold and don't want to let go, they need marriage.

I don't advise an ultimatum, just patience and understanding. As user Florge recenlty said to me, "explain to her that you shouldn't be rushing things... but also assure her of your commitment in your relationship."

Thanks for your comments. I made my point clear but at the same time assured her of my commitment and she also promised to be less influenced by her female friends. At the same time, how can I resist such a woman????

its good to see that you sorted things out,just try to understand her more