Quote Originally Posted by oakbranch View Post
Aye - please try not to be too harsh on me or suspicious of my motives. I am merely trying to probe knowledge and experience by asking some questions.

I never said I didn't want to visit the Philippines or in some way cause her to forget her past life, that is rather a severe assumption if you don't mind me saying so.

On the subject itself I think that while there is a risk of a VV being refused on the grounds she would not return then it is not worth contemplating since it raises a negative flag at the outset and clearly we don't want that.

There is nothing wrong with having a plan though. In my experience one has to look at the facts somewhat dispassionately at some point in proceedings and dispense with a little of the romance so that one can make informed decisions.

My first wife was Nigerian and I had a great deal of contact with the immigration service when getting married and securing her ILR later. You need to be thinking 2 and 3 steps ahead and have all bases covered. On that basis I wish to leave nothing to chance.

Cheers

Noel x
Yes you can have a plan, but it's best to go and visit first. If you're talking online, meeting is so very different.
My only plan, was to go and meet the lady I stumbled upon, by complete accident, several months beforehand...Plans were made later.

All of our circumstances are different & yes it can be an expensive proposition. The cost of air fares, time off work etc. etc. So I guess you are weighing things up in your mind. But I would still not advise rushing into things....I'm certainly not rich, I pretty much paid for my first 2 trips, by selling things on ebay.

Other members, will tell you different...I'm not trying to put you off, though you probably think I'm being negative...I just know from my own experiences of life, things turn out very differently, to how you plan them.