Noel and Jonalyn

[South-east boy]

Well folks

Looks like I'm not getting any more answers. Since asking for specific details on this latest injury and a number of other things...zilch..wall of silence

Can't get hold of her - she don't call me - nothing.

So thats that then.

Still it's just a setback. I am now forearmed aren't I?

So am starting my search again and taking it slow

Noel x

Am sorry to hear it and can imagine how you feel. Its hard to get to know someone well (or think you have) and then it all suddenly ends, especially if you find out that they were not what you thought. It seems like it was made up, but I wonder why? Unless she had something further planned? Do you know if she did definitely live in the area where she said she did? And don't worry, no-one will think that you're stupid or had bad judgement. Others on here have found out that the lady they were in contact with wasn't genuine and sadly I guess you won't be the last. I guess if we are genuine and honest ourselves, then we think that others are the same and can be a bit too trusting sometimes. Sean (Northener on here) had been scammed before, but later met a lovely lady who he flew out and met just recently (there is a blog on his trip below).

I wonder if there is anywhere on the site (an old thread etc) that has things to look out for if someone isn't genuine or setting you up to scam them? As when you are new to long-distance-relationships, you don't always know of what to look out for and the signs that might say that they are not genuine.

[Tawi2]

You can never cover all the bases or plan for every contingency,there isnt anyone qualified to write a definitive guide to scammers because no one has experience enough and its normally learnt experience and intuition,no one can write a book on negotiating through the minefield of online dating without experiencing lots of women,and by the time you have gained the knowledge you are finally married having waded through a quagmire of unsatisfactory ladies,the scammers are constantly upgrading their ploys,coming up with new schemes,hitting it from a different angle,perhaps she wasnt interested in money but was playing a long term deception angling for the golden-ticket AKA a visa,no one knows,we are all individuals and have different things ticking away in our noggins,I had someone offer to buy me a ticket to fly to Pinas so there are genuine ladies out there

[Arthur Little]

. I guess if we are genuine and honest ourselves, then we think that others are the same and can be a bit too trusting sometimes.

It's happened to ME ... more times than I care to remember! Not in THIS context, I hasten to add!

[oakbranch]

Don't think I get a mailbox in this forum - anyone wishes to message me it's uknoel~~AT~~inbox.com

Noel

[South-east boy]

Don't think I get a mailbox in this forum - anyone wishes to message me it's

Noel

I think it's because you need to do a certain amount of posts before you are able to send or receive PM's (private messages).

[oakbranch]

Don't think I get a mailbox in this forum - anyone wishes to message me it's

Noel

Tawi - I am getting personal messages but I can't respond nor leave one for you - try my email please I have a comment to make about that last message

Noel

[Tawi2]

I certainly will Noel.