As you said, HE has debts. Is it possible that any of HIS debts are from flying to see you? or paying for your visa and flight here? Or sending any of your family money?
You said you had a nice career in the Philippines so did it pay for most of the afore mentioned things?
If not then it might be suggested that HIS debts are both of your debts.
I take it you got married in Phil as your here on a spouse visa so I would assume that he payed for most if not all of that?
Maybe just maybe he didnt want to dissapoint you and instead chose to have a nice wedding to remember and get you here and then address the financial problems together.
As for the chatting with ex`s well I guess that if he told you that you shouldnt then he should respect you and do the same.
