9 mos is early to say I give up. Marriage is commitment and compromise. Soon as you made the vow what is his is yours and vice versa. Trust is essential. It is not only him to support you but also you to support him (all aspect, financial, moral, emotional,physical,spiritual etc)
You need to talk to your husband and tell him how it affects you because maybe he is not aware that he is making you unhappy, if he dont listen then it is entirely up to you to make yourself happy ..one is stop snooping or checking up on him because it will just make you feel bad, divert your stress to something constructive go to the gymm, do some shopping (when you finally got your own money) completely ignore what his doing and try to keep busy.
hope all goes well. Take care.