I think if I went to the Phils many, many times for a few years I would only be wasting more and more effort trying to find out what can only be found out from time living together.. That being, will my feelings stay the same?

And I would think not.. We all change and a relationship is doomed if the two involved don't try and get past arguments and work out differences! Besides, I've played it safe too many times now that it bores me..

My motto is it!!